STRE$$ AND MONEY
Are you aware of the ties?
By Jim Kinney

 


Just about all of us have experienced negative or painful bouts with money issues that have kept us locked in a negative cycle or a rut of faulty beliefs and bad habits. We must first become aware of these issues that prevent us from achieving the financial freedom and security we desire before we can change the imbalance. Once we are aware of them, then we can work on bringing them into alliance and balance them with our dreams and desires.

Some of the areas to consider are the childhood beliefs that were modeled for us by our parents and role models. Ask yourself, “What were the beliefs that were passed on to me?” This is not to imply that all those beliefs were limiting. Just be willing to look at your beliefs and assess them for yourself. If they are working for you, obviously keep them. But if you discover some are not, then it is important to change them. This can be as simple as a mere change in perception. Oftentimes, though, it requires a deeper level of change because we have gathered much evidence that our belief is true — no matter how far off track it is from the truth.

Remember the larger the ship, the longer it takes to change its direction. This also applies to beliefs. The stronger the belief structure, the more energy it requires to change it. And, another thing to remember is that it usually takes about 30 to 45 days of repetition in order to change an imbedded habit or belief. This requires diligence on your part to change.

There are steps to be taken and patience to be practiced in allowing yourself to change. This means do not be hard on yourself for making mistakes. Remember that you WILL make mistakes and often revert back to the old habit or belief over and over again in the beginning. But as you continue to practice the new belief, you will begin to notice that you revert back less often. This cycling back and forth is called the natural process of change. And, working with clients on change, I have yet to find anyone who has been able to bypass it. It is the transition of bringing thought energy into reality. You will have to go through what I call “Trouble at the Border”. There is no border too big to cross as long as the desire and will are strong. It is your intention that fuels your will and desires, as well as your will and desire fueling your intention. It is not an “either or” situation. It is a “this AND” situation.

Learn to use your “short falling” as a catalyst for going within. What are your belief systems that are holding you back and locked in? Do you think there is not enough? Do you hold the belief that you don’t deserve to have it, that you aren’t capable or enough? If you say in one breath, “I want and deserve more money” but then in the next breath counteract it with, “I should stop dreaming” or “I could never afford that”, you have just prevented yourself from the possibility of achieving it. Be aware of your every thought you hold or think about money. Notice how you spend it, too. Thought is energy and it has great impact on your life.

As you look to move forward in your life, goals give you something to strive for. Without a desire to achieve, there is no motivation. Without motivation, there is no movement. Without movement, you are destined to remain exactly where you are. In our courses, we ask people to brainstorm a list of dreams and possibilities without editing or judgment. This is important because in order to become who we most truly are; we must first be free to dream. From that vantage point, we can then translate those dreams into practi-calities allowing them to blossom into reality. This is the point where we encounter “Trouble at the Border”, where our dreams and reality cross paths.

As you may know, setting goals is one thing, but writing them down is another. And, how we write them is equally as important. It is important to make sure your goals are not a “to do”. A “to do” is a project or task that you “have to” or “should” complete (like lose weight, exercise more, clean up the garage, etc.). A “goal” is the result or achievement toward which effort is directed; aim; an end.

The way you can tell the difference between a “to do” and a “goal” is when you contemplate completing your goal, you feel joyful, fulfilled. When you contemplate completing a task or a “to do”, you feel relief, a lessening of stress. You wouldn’t leap out of the bed in the morning saying, “Wow, today is a great day to go on a diet!”

You can create “SMART” goals by using the following criteria:

S - is for “Specific.” Allows you to be focused on a clear goal.
M- is for “Measurable.” This way you know when you have achieved your goal.
A- is for “Attainable.” The goal should be a stretch for you but not a set-up for failure.
R- is for “Relevant.” If your goal isn’t fueled with authentic desire and passion, you won’t follow through. (Remember this is a “goal” and not a task or a “to do.”)
T- is for “Time.” Take out your calendar and assign a date by which your goal will be accomplished. (Keep in mind that to stay focused and motivated, you will want to set your goal to be achieved within one year’s time.)

This is just a beginning step toward relieving stress and achieving your desires. It is important to be able to articulate your goals in writing. Once this is accomplished, you can move on to the next step, which is having a “creation mindset”:

— Focus on your intention. You must truly want it. You must make the tools, the space, the time and clarity available to achieve the goal. Your INTENTION is primary!

— Learn to relax yourself. Breathwork and meditation can be very helpful in achieving this. Create an opening to receive abundance and guidance.

— Be present, be in the now. Put aside any negative thoughts and feelings, any guilt about the past, any anxiety about the future, anything that is holding you back or blocking you. Remove any source of resistance. In the now time, all your past and future is accessible to you and can be changed right now.

— Be open to the unexpected. Be open to experiences that may go beyond your previous conceptions of the possible or your conceptions of what might be expected. Be prepared to be surprised; “expect a miracle!” Once you become familiar with and fully integrate these guidelines, you will be able to envision, with sensory-rich clarity, perfect and rich images of your success. By focusing on your intention and creating detailed images of your success, they can take root and eventually blossom into achievement-oriented behavior. Your high-achievement behavior will bring forth a rich harvest of personal success into anything and everything you decide to undertake.

So make sure you have clear goals and integrate them into your daily life. Once you have achieved this, you will be able to move into higher levels of financial awareness such as budgeting wisely, investing for growth and saving carefully.

Don’t take my word on any of this; test if for yourself. I know you will find these tools very useful as many others have.

Jim Kinney has a private practice that incorporates Energetic Refocusing & Balancing using Breathwork, Psycho-Neural Integration (PNI), Dreamwork, Relationship Coaching, Intuitive Guidance and/or Emotional Release and Healing. Also, Jim and his wife, Anne, offer a variety of courses that can open doors for new insights and new perspectives and create the bridge that takes you where you want to go. He can be reached by calling Expanding Visions at (949) 722-1962. You may also check out his website at www.expandingvisions.com  


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