Seiser Says
What Does Prosperity Really Mean?
By Lynn Seiser

 

 

Prosper as a verb means to do or fare well. Prospering is an adjective that means improving, growing, or succeeding steadily. Prosperity as a noun means state of health, happiness, welfare, and well-being. Prosperity simply means the condition of being successful or thriving.

You already have enough.
I usually write a column about prosperity attempting to make people aware that they already have enough. One of the most damaging beliefs one can develop about themselves, or the world, is that they are not enough.

We may have the excuse that we are not smart enough, not pretty or handsome enough, not skinny or muscular enough, or not lucky enough. The list could truly be endless. We have all kinds of excuses for not having prosperity. A quick reality check will prove that none of these excuses are valid.

There are many people who are not the smartest in the class, the marketplace or the boardroom, but have prosperity in their lives. There are many people who have never won a beauty or bodybuilding contest, but have prosperity in their lives. Many people have continually failed until they had prosperity in their lives.

The not-enough belief is a self-judgment. There is no evidence that judgment is useful or beneficial. In fact, the evidence suggests that judgment is very damaging and reinforces inappropriate behavior that began as an _expression of self-judgment. While many schools of thought have obvious rules against judgment of others, very few address the need to lose self-judgment. Since the universe tends to agree with us, a negative self-judgment will request the universe give us scarcity, not the prosperity we all want.

There is already enough and we are all worth it. However, what if we just want a little more?

You already know.
Let’s assume we really do believe that we do not have enough. How does one go about getting more? I usually teach a three-step process. The first is to know what you really want. The second is to know what you have to do to get it. The third is to do it.

Notice that the first two steps have to do with knowing. Many people say that they do not know what they really want. Many people only get to what they want through a long a painful process of elimination, focusing on what they do not want. Actually, the way our mental information sorting works is to know what you do not want implies there is some criteria to compare it to. This standard criterion is your want list. Besides, in all honesty, most everyone knows what he or she wants in life. We all want to be happy, healthy, loved, and comfortably wealthy. So we do already know.

Do you know what you have to do to get it? Again, most people use the excuse that they do not know, but actually, they do. When asked what they need to do to be happy, most people know they need to take their life less seriously, and take others less personally. To be healthy, most people know they need to eat better, exercise more, and visit their physician on a regular schedule.

To be loved, most people know they need to choose more wisely, be more loving themselves, and “let” the love of others in. To be comfortably wealthy, most people know they need to get a better education, be more positive and productive, to invest wisely, and to become financially literate.

If one really knows what they need to do to get what they want, there are plenty of books and seminars. The reading of books, listening to tapes and CDs, and attending seminars can help one gain the knowledge needed to get what is truly wanted. But beware, many packages have an implied judgment that can unconsciously interfere with progressing towards prosperity. Choose wisely.

Once you admit you know what you want, and know what you have to do to get it, you still have to do it. Every day do those activities which help you progress towards prosperity.

Prepare for prosperity with a plan.
Realize you must be ready and realistic.
Opportunity usually comes most often to those who are optimistic.
Security comes from a sincere drive towards success.
People are the most important source and assistance to prosperity.
Everyone wants to have enough, but not everyone will put in the effort.
Recognize your own internal resistance and commit to resolve it.
Information and intuition are important.
Trust your tenacity towards the top, and target timing and training.
You must do your own work; no one can do it for you.

Thanks for listening, for the opportunity to be of service, and for sharing the journey.

Lynn Seiser, Ph.D., is an internationally respected psychotherapist and author with offices in Long Beach and Tustin.


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