Karmic Relationships … Healing Invisible Wounds
An interview with Dr. Charles Richards
By Jill V. Mangino

 

 

Have we lived before? Are the people we attract in our life those we have “unfinished” business with? In his new book “Karmic Relationships,” Dr. Charles Richards uncovers the mystery behind karma relationships. Are we drawn to people from our past lives to help us heal? Is the “theme” or “pattern” in our life based on invisible wounds that may have occurred in a previous life? Dr. Richards shares his fascinating experiences as a psychotherapist guiding others to the “other side” through a therapeutic process he utilizes called Soul Journeys. His book helps us understand the spiritual significance of relationships, especially the difficult ones, and provides new understanding into how we can make the best of our relationships instead of being under the influence of “karmic wounds” that inhibit us from living fully with joy. Most importantly his work provides even further evidence of the eternality of the Soul and its journey towards divine love.

 I had the opportunity to speak with him about his groundbreaking new book…

Jill: How did you develop the Soul Journey and Karmic Analysis process you use now with your clients?

My doctorate in Clinical Psychology trained me in the traditional uses of psychotherapy addressing the problems and challenges of my clients. However, the understanding developed through my personal spiritual experiences had shown me that there was much more to who we are than the ego, mind, and emotions of traditional psychology. I knew as soul we are all multi-dimensional beings and that this life is just the tip of the iceberg. I realized that past lives had a big influence on why we behave the way we do with others. It was important for me to develop and use a method of having clients explore these past experiences in full consciousness, without hypnosis because true self-realization is a process that requires full conscious awareness at all times. What I found when I began to use the Soul Journeys method for addressing issues was that clients who had been through years of traditional therapy for various issues with limited success found complete resolution in only a few sessions. To get such results clients would often have to relive so-called past lives, the period between lives, prenatal and birth trauma. These results using Soul Journeys sessions could not be ignored. After all, my commitment as a healer was to use methods of therapy that would give my clients the most success in therapy in the shortest period of time. It only made sense to use methods that brought the best results.

Jill: One of the most fascinating stories in your book is the one where you guided a woman (who was adopted) back to her actual birth. In the delivery room she was able to read the name on her birth certificate, in order to find her birth mother. How is this possible?

Dr. Richards: This was an unusual application of a common process I use to resolve birth trauma. This particular client came to me with an interest in finding her birth mother who gave her up for adoption soon after birth. The records were sealed so she only knew the city in which she was born. What we did was to return to her experience of being born in the hospital, but instead of focusing on details of the birth and associated trauma, we focused on details and clues that would identify her mother’s name. We were successful in learning her mother’s full name when it was spoken. We even learned the names of the nurses and doctor by having her read their name tags.

Actually, she did not read these things from the eyes of the newborn, but from the perception of the soul that is not yet fully identified with and stationed within the body at birth. I’ve observed many manifestations of this perceptual ability of the soul outside of the body in my clients. The reason I mention this perceptual ability of soul is because there were details of her birthmother’s bedroom and a gathering when she first told her family she was pregnant that were also proven to be accurate. The fetus itself would have no way of identifying such details from within the womb. With the full name of her mother she was then able to hire a private detective who easily found her birth mother, eventually resulting in a happy reunion.

Jill: The word “Karma” is so commonly used nowadays, how exactly would you define karma?

Dr. Richards: Without karma you and I would not be here on this planet. What this means is that the law of cause and effect, or karma, is a universal spiritual law and not just a law of physics. This law governs the actions and reactions of all life and all life forms. Karma is basically energy at vibrational frequencies much higher and subtler than we’ve developed the means to measure. Our karmic mission is one of love, service, and continued spiritual unfoldment here on earth. When we fully understand and apply this law in a constructive, rather than a destructive manner, our karmic lessons here are finished.

Like the law of gravity, karmic law is impersonal and governs all life whether we believe in it or not.  It is actually the law of divine love applied for the benefit of soul to unfold its true spiritual potential here on earth.  We can ultimately transcend the pull of karma through unconditional or divine love.  This is very different from the personal, human love we are all so familiar with.

Jill: So obviously to embrace the concept of karma one has to believe in reincarnation, which seems to be more widely accepted — why do you think more people are embracing this concept, which was once so esoteric?

Dr. Richards: Karma and reincarnation are universal truths that seem to hold sway whether we believe in them our not.  Like the law of gravity once you understand how it works, physical activities under its influence become predictable and can work to your advantage instead of becoming a burden.

Universal karmic law is based on the principle of positive and negative reinforcement as described in the behavioral school of psychology. When we understand its principle we learn to live life in such a way that brings us positive reinforcement and avoids negative reinforcement. It’s a wonder it takes us scores of lifetimes to realize how this principle works. Yet fear and the desire to gain self mastery by controlling others drives us on blindly until the soul is weary of traveling the same roads over and over again. 

With the accelerated pace of life and the seeming chaos and tragedy in the world people are looking for answers as to why things happen the way they do.

They wonder why is there an attraction between myself and another whom I’ve never met but who feels as familiar and comfortable as my best friend does?

People are realizing that sometimes what we are told by the leaders of institutions, religious and otherwise is not always the complete truth. Many of us are beginning to ask questions and seek answers for ourselves based on experience and not just faith. For this reason and many others, the concept of karma and reincarnation is getting a second look by more progressive-minded individuals.

Jill: This “attraction” you just mentioned, is this what you would call a Karmic Relationship?

Dr. Richards: Karmic relationships are relationships where past karma is being balanced between two souls.  This karma may have involved these same two souls or a group of souls in a past life together.

Jill: Are we resolving past-life ties in all our relationships?

Our significant relationships with others, be they romantic, family, or business, all involve resolving pre-existing karmic ties. Recently a friend related a story of a past boyfriend who had been physically abusive to her.  As a result, she left the relationships and later learned that he had dated another woman he had physically abused and battered even more than her. Years later she happened by a friend’s house and this same ex-boyfriend happened to also be visiting at the time. He was a shocking sight to her; he had been beaten to a pulp, was severely bruised and battered.  What she learned was that the previous day he had been driving through the city and had cut off two guys in another vehicle.  They honked in protest and he in turn made an insulting gesture to them from his car. These guys, unbeknownst to him, followed him. They then pulled up beside him, got out of their car and began a merciless physical assault that left him severely injured.  For them to go to such lengths to attack him was certainly unusual.  When my friend heard his story she had the sad but clear realization that this was karmic payback for the many women, including herself, he had battered in previous relationships.  Instead of feeling satisfaction she found herself feeling compassion and sadness that his lesson had to come back to him in this manner.

This principle of karma works in even the most minute detail of our lives to govern what we think, say, and do.  Often what we experience in this life is a karmic carry over from past lives.

Jill: Are these the “invisible wounds” you talk about — this karmic carry over from past lives? And how do we recognize that we have them? 

Dr. Richards: Invisible wounds are wounds we carry resulting from trauma experienced in this and all our previous lifetimes. They are largely unconscious and have an active influence on our present day-to-day behavior and relationships. We can identify them by our fears, reactive patterns, emotional outbursts, extreme judgments, addictions, health challenges, stress points, unwanted or undesirable patterns of behavior, and many other things.

Jill: How do we heal them?

Dr. Richards: Depending on the degree of trauma, we can gain insight into these patterns by using the past-life museum technique, or by asking for insight and guidance through dreams. Both of these methods are described in my book, “Karmic Relationships.”

Jill: In your book you note that once you understand the concept of karma you can never again allow yourself to become a victim, that you are responsible for everything that happens to you. While I do believe that everything happens for a reason, sometimes it is hard to rationalize horrible injustices in the world?

Dr. Richards: We can always choose to allow ourselves to become victimized.  Once we understand and accept the principle of karma we realize that even if we are ‘victimized’ it is by our own choosing based on previous actions and decisions.  In that sense we are not truly victims, we’ve just allowed ourselves to become unconscious of the greater truth.

My experience with clients has shown time and time again that your most challenging misfortune or your greatest windfall has its roots in previous actions either in this life or a past lifetime.  I’ve come to accept that God, or whatever you choose to call the supreme creative force is a fair and just administrator to all life.

Jill: Yes, but can this lead to the belief that everything is fated and we have no choice about the experiences that happen to us? Do we choose every experience for our soul’s growth before we come back to earth?

Dr. Richards: Every moment we have a choice on how we will respond to a given situation. This choice or response is either based on love or power. If our responses to life situations are based on love, we are working in the karma-less realm. If we respond with power, then we merely increase our karmic debt in either a desirable or undesirable manner.

If for instance, while in a difficult karmic love relationship we feel betrayed by our partner we can respond in two primary ways. One way is to feel our hurt or disappointment, seek understanding, and eventually give unconditional love with forgiveness. The other is to attack verbally, seek vengeance in some manner, and hold onto the anger we felt. We may eventually decide to leave the relationship but if we follow the first example it’s likely we’ll not have to experience such betrayal in our next relationship. The second response is sure to bring the cycle of pain and betrayal back into our lives in a future relationship. The first response follows the path of unconditional love. The second response follows the karmic path of power. The limitations of fate are the result of unconscious living. We always have the freedom to choose our destiny and thus reshape our future.

 For more information on Dr. Charles Richards please visit www.karmicrelationships.com  or you can contact him for consultations at (760) 633-2919 or e-mail: drchasZ@aol.com 

Jill V. Mangino is a freelance writer living in Honolulu, Hawaii. She can be reached at circle3@aol.com   


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