SEISER SAYS
By Lynn Seiser

More Than Enough



I remember looking around and wondering why some people seem to have all they ever need and others never seem to have enough? Ever wonder how those who have it all got it? Ever wonder how those who don’t have it could get it? Me too.

I remember having a long discussion about the changing trends in classes. One gentleman commented that it seemed the middle class was getting smaller. With time there would only be the “haves” and the “have-nots”.  Each of us had to make a choice which we were going to be. I thought about that. I looked around to see if this matched my observations. It did. Now, there was a choice to be made. Which did I want to be? Well, I’d spent all my life, up until that point, as a “have not” so the other option looked good to me. But, how?

I remember another person telling me about the glass of water metaphor. Remember? Is the glass half empty or half full? One person asked what it was filled with. There are some things you wouldn’t even want a half a glass of. I had never looked at it that way before. Another person said the glass was too big. If you got a smaller glass then the same amount would be a full glass. I thought that was a pretty ingenious way of looking at it as well. Was my glass half-empty, half-full, too big, and did I want what was in it?

I remember flying across this great country of ours. I loved seeing all the wide-open spaces. It occurred to me that we don’t have a population problem, we have a distribution problem. We all try to live in one place. Go into a grocery store. Is there a food shortage or a distribution problem? Look at the money many people have. Is there a poverty problem or a distribution problem? Is there a shortage of love and good people to be in a relationship with, or is there a distribution problem? Well, it was hard for me to come up with any real shortage. It would seem to me that what we have here is a distribution problem.

I remember as a kid that we would tease each other, “When they were passing out brains you thought they said trains and waited for the last one.” I wonder what I thought they were saying when they passed out abundance and prosperity? Whatever I thought it was, I was left without again.

The nice thing is that the universe asks more than once. In fact, it asks continuously. It asks if we want to have. It asks to fill our glass. It asks to give to us all. So how do we keep turning this generous universe down?

One of the ways we make sense of the universe is to try to have consistent ways of looking at things. If we consistently see ourselves as “have-nots”, we won’t have. If we consistently see our glass as half-empty, we will always be thirsty. Negative people are pessimists who always see the dark side. Positive people are optimists who always see the bright side. Yet, everyday has both dark and light. It’s up to us to choose which way we want to be. The universe will then agree with us. The universe then gives and takes accordingly.

We do it with our minds. Our own thoughts are our own worst enemies. Few people pay close attention to their way of perceiving and communicating with the universe. One of the ways our mind works is through meta-programs. Meta-programs are consistent sorting mechanisms that are in the habit of only seeing things one way. Some people tend to consistently move away from things instead of towards others. Some people look for the differences while others look for the similarities. Some look for what they have while others only see what isn’t. The trouble with doing anything consistently is that we forget we are doing it and just believe it is the way the universe is.

Ever change your mind about anything? We let’s do it again. Let’s decide we are all worth happiness, love, abundance, and prosperity. That includes each of us too. Let’s decide to consistently look for the full glass, the distribution line, and to listen for what the universe is offering us. Just because we have always turned down abundance and prosperity before doesn’t mean we have to continue to. We are in the habit of saying “no” and we can learn to say “yes”.

Thanks for listening, for the opportunity to be of service, and for sharing the happiness, love, abundance, and prosperity that we are all worthy of on this journey. 

Lynn Seiser, Ph.D., is an internationally respected psychotherapist in Seal Beach, CA with more than twenty years of direct clinical experience in recovery counseling for offenders and victims of violence, trauma and abuse. He is known for his work in “holistic” recovery from addictions with an emphasis on “healthy relationships”. Lynn is a consultant, speaker and writer and may be contacted at (562) 799-1371. Check out his website at www.members.aol.com/SeiserL/index.html  


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