BY JESSE ANSON DAWN
Tips on Keeping Mind and Body Young
Researcher-author Jesse Anson Dawn, 52, speaks out from the pages of his widely-selling book, Never Old: The Ultimate Success Story about a most stirring subject: how and why we age.
Presently answering the Question: "What kind of effect does sexual activity have on how we age?"
Dear Reader, This is a question that I run through my mind on a regular basis, because, of course, sexuality is an innate, almost unavoidable part of us even as we get "older." But after being so bombarded with the AIDS scare all through the 80's and 90's, it seems that a large portion of single people have become what I call sexually paralyzed. And to bring about a Sexually Paralyzed Generation seems to be just what conservatively moralistic "old folks" would want, and perhaps they've gotten their wish, especially anywhere outside of sexually liberated California. At least California used to be somewhat sexually libertine, and surely still is relatively free compared to New England or the Bible Belt.
Yes, surely there are definite connections between how we age and the liberation of one's spirit, which is why California has always been seen as a "youth"-oriented culture, probably one of the best things about California. But of course even California has its narrow and conservative side, which is what brought us Ronald Reagan. And speaking of sex, AIDS and Reagan, there's even a somewhat believable theory that the whole AIDS "epidemic" was conceived and propagandized by scientists and publicists employed by the Reagan-Bush regime during their 12-year reign.
Anyway, it is true that the whole sexual picture turned sour and sank back into a grayish, 1950's style during Reagansleep. Yes, and it may take a whole new decade before single people can sexually relax again and stop biting their nails about that seemingly perfect date that turned into ecstasy. But if we rely on facts instead of scare tactics or rumors, it is a comfort to know that the National Center for Health Statistics states that only one in every 200,000 HETEROSEXUAL people gets infected with AIDS. Something like picking the wrong date out of the entire adult population of Fresno or Cincinnati.
But still, despite a new awareness about the avoidability and even the curability of AIDS (via mental control, exercises and diet) Reagan era scare tactics have made ecstatic dates somewhat of a thing of the past, replaced again by the old materialistic hold-out for wedding bells. Ah, but sadly this back-to-the-50's trend does nothing to help the extinction of resources via population explosion, what with "family values" being directly tied to over-population, as in Catholic places literally choking with population overflow such as Mexico City or Manila.
But about the connection of good ol' (birth-controlled) sexual activity with how we age, in my research I've found that just like anything else that dies with lack of use, the sexual spirit of our so-called "youth" should be carried on as long as possible, even if it takes masturbation to keep it alive. Yes, the "use it or lose it" truism even goes for that woo-woo betwixt our legs. And as many of us learned back in the 60's, that woo-woo betwixt our legs is much more than an apparatus for babymaking, but a surefire connector into spiritual renewal.
Oh yes. But of course one of the valuable lessons that we learn with "maturity" is that sex is not the ONLY way to stimulate spiritual renewal, but surely one of the nicer and more accessible ways. Yes, "make love, not war" is much more than a hackneyed slogan of the 60's, but a truism for all time, DESPITE any conservative trend which may try to pull us back into the hole of believing not only that sex is a "sin" but back into such holes as believing that paying a fortune for deadly chemotherapy is actually the "right" way to do things back into believing that bombs really ARE a blast back into believing that DDT is "man's best friend" and the only good tree is a dead one cut for plywood.
But of course, it goes without saying that it takes a lot more than sex to make a good relationship. So many couples stay together just "for the children" as they say, which is what my parents did but my brother, sister and I let out a hearty "Amen, it's about time," when they finally divorced. Indeed, a healing freedom is surely a lot healthier and rejuvenating for all concerned than sustaining a painful and festering marriage. Yes, America was founded on a belief in freedom and equal rights, and I guess that means single people have rights too, the right to be single OR married. Anyhow, single or married, happy holidays, happy journeys of YOUth-fulness, dear reader, and as ever (and ever) happy rejuvenating!*
*For the whole "anti-aging" story, Jesse Dawn's 258-page book, Never "Old" (nominated for a Pulitzer Prize and winner of the National Association of Independent Publishers Award for Content) can be quickly received by charge card. Simply call World Changing Books at their toll-free number 1 (800) RENEW-22 (736-3922) or send a check for $11.95 (includes book, 1st class postage and handling) made out to World Changing Books and sent to them at P.O. Box 5491, Hilo, HI 96720.
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