The Special Bond Between Pets & Humans:
Losing a Pet
By Selacia



The word love is often associated with forever. Couples often vow their love to one another on this “forever” basis, either on a casual basis or in more formalized wedding ceremonies. We naturally want our love to last forever, and we are sad when a relationship goes sour, or a loved one dies.

How about when a beloved pet dies? The love we have for our pets is no less real than the love we have for people. Oftentimes we bond more with our furry companions than we do with our families and other loved ones. We tend to open our hearts more with a cat or dog than we would with a person because we are of being hurt. We trust them with a more vulnerable part of ourselves, enjoying their unconditional love and friendship. When they leave us, it can be devastating.

Over the holidays in 2003, I learned this firsthand when my calico cat Chelsea died. She passed away the day after Christmas, leaving me so sad that I know the ache in my heart will take a very long time to heal. She was 20, and had been in declining health for a number of months.

Over two decades of my life, I had shared my most intimate self with her, enjoying her companionship and receiving her bountiful lessons about unconditional love and caring. Other relationships with people had come and gone, and many things in my life had changed, but Chelsea and I were inseparable, and our love continued to grow each year.

It was Chelsea who helped me initially to discover my keen interest and ability to work with animals. In these last few years, my healing practice has included more and more animals. She taught me so much about telepathic animal communication, about healing, and then, in the final months, about the death process.

Many people consider it a sign of weakness to show emotion when a pet dies. It is not weakness. It is a sign of strength to be real and talk about your pain. The pain you feel is very genuine and valid. When your pet dies, you have lost a best friend. Just as you loved your pet in life, you will want to honor them and yourself in death. This means being honest with how you feel, and allowing yourself to grieve. You don’t need to dramatize it, but don’t stifle your feelings either.

One of the many things pets can teach us is how to be natural and real. Pets can teach us to develop qualities that are a part of our natural state of being — unconditional love, sharing, open-heartedness, emotional tenderness, caring, responsibility, loyalty and empathy. These very qualities can help you to heal from the loss of your beloved pet. You will heal when you treat yourself with these kindnesses, and when you realize that your bond of love is indeed forever.

Selacia is a Santa Monica-based animal communicator, author, medical intuitive, and DNA healer/teacher. She can be reached at, or by e-mail at:  or (310) 915-2884.

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