Beat Stress & Re-energize with The Peace MethodTM
By Aurora Winter



The Peace Method™ is easy to learn, easy to remember, and easy to use. I created The Peace Method™ so that you would have a powerful, yet simple process to release stress and re-energize.

In just five steps, you can move from pain to peace. You can use it as a structure for keeping your journal, or steps to walk through when you are feeling stressed, angry, or upset.
The coaches I train use The Peace Method™ as a five-step framework in talking to people who are upset or heartbroken, and you can use it this way, too.

The Peace Method™ stands for:
P = Present Moment
E = Express Feelings
A = Accept the Situation
C = Consider the Contrary
E = Enthusiasm

This is just a quick overview of The Peace Method™. I could write a book to fully explain the benefits of this system. However, the following executive summary will provide you with a process that you can start using today. The Peace Method™ works best if you explore one upsetting thought at a time, and then work through all 5 steps.

P = Present Moment
The first step is to get centered in the present moment. Then breathe. Upset feelings are rooted in our thoughts about the past or the future. The present moment is the doorway to peace.

When I lead retreats or coach clients, I like to begin with a centering meditation. I like this simple 4-breath meditation by Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh, author of Peace Is Every Step: “Breathing in, I calm my body; Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment, I know this is a wonderful moment!”

Q: Are you fully and joyfully present right here, right now?

E = Express Feelings
It is very important to express what you are feeling — not what you “should” be feeling. Don’t be kind. Don’t be spiritual. Tell the truth — and release it. It is only your truth for that moment, anyway.
When my husband died suddenly at the age of 33, I expressed my feelings in my journal (which later became my book “From Heartbreak To Happiness: An Intimate Diary of Healing”).

Unexpressed feelings are like food poisoning. If you stuff your feelings, you get to keep them. Imagine two people who go out for dinner and both get food poisoning. One of them throws up — and lives. The other “stuffs it” — and dies.

It is absolutely essential that you get whatever is bothering you out of your system. You can express your feelings in your diary. Or talk to a friend, therapist, or coach.

Q: Who (or what) is bothering you? How should the situation be different?

A = Accept the Situation
Thoughts that you’ve been victimized repel happiness. When you truly, deeply accept the situation, and I mean accept it as if you had chosen it, you release all “victim” energy.

In my case, I was blessed with a dream on the second anniversary of my husband’s death. In this dream, I met my husband at the airport and raged, “How could you rip my heart out? How could you die beside me?” I confronted him with his ultimate betrayal, “How could you leave our son without his father?!”

In this dream, my late husband asked me three questions, and these questions changed my life.

The first question was, “If you had it to do all over again, would you still marry me?”

I thought for just a moment, flooded with happy memories. I would take my time with him, though it be short. “Yes.”

If you had it to do all over again, would you still have our son?” This time the answer was quicker, surer. He is the light of my life, my joy, my blessing! “Yes!”

And then he asked the third and final question. And this question changed my life. “Given that, would you want to know that I would die young?”

His question made me pause. I looked into my heart. After a very long moment, I realized the answer.

“No.” I would not choose to taint our joy with dread.

This dream freed me from the idea that I was a victim. I did not choose my fate. And yet — had I been given a choice — I would have chosen it.

You can free yourself, too, by answering the following questions:

Q: How could you accept this situation as if you had chosen it? What could there possibly be to appreciate about the way things are?

C = Consider the Contrary
For a long time I thought, “My husband’s death is the worst thing that ever happened to me.” That thought caused incredible pain and suffering. But was that crushing thought true?
My late husband gave me three priceless gifts. The first was our son. The second was the experience of having my heart broken… and opened. It profoundly changed me in ways that I appreciate. It made me who I am today.

The third gift was that his death sent my life in a direction I find deeply meaningful and fulfilling. I have dedicated my life to helping others go from heartbreak to happiness as quickly and easily as possible.
On one level, my husband’s death was the worst thing that happened to me. But on another level, it could be received as a gift.

Finding gifts — even in the most unlikely situations — evaporates negative feelings. What is left is gratitude.

Q: How could the contrary be true? Where might there be a blessing in this challenging situation?

E = Enthusiasm
I like to think that, before I was born, God asked for a volunteer who would like to teach people how to go from heartbreak to happiness. I thought that sounded like an awesome life mission, and I enthusiastically volunteered.

And then God asked for a volunteer who would teach me everything I needed to know to fulfill my mission. And my late husband willingly volunteered. (And then he negotiated a really awesome — though short — life.)

On January 17, 2005, Time Magazine reported Dr. Edward Diener’s extensive work on adaptation. He found that the loss of a spouse knocks people lastingly below their normal happiness level. It typically takes a widow 5–8 years to regain her previous sense of well-being. I am passionate about changing this statistic.

It takes people a very long time to heal because no one has taught them what to do. It is not their fault.

My clients are going from heartbreak to happiness in months — not in years. I am enthusiastic about all the human happiness, fulfillment, productivity, creativity, and potential that is regained by giving people back years of their life.

I am only one person and cannot personally reach out to every person dealing with heartbreak. Every year in the U.S., over five million people are dealing with death or divorce. So, I am enthusiastic about the coaches I am training who will assist me in guiding people From Heartbreak To Happiness™ quickly and easily.

Q: What are you enthusiastic about? What would you like to create?

In summary, The Peace Method™ helps you shift from pain to peace. Use these five steps to help yourself — and help others:
1) Present Moment
2) Express Feelings
3) Accept The Situation
4) Consider the Contrary, and
5) Express Enthusiasm.

Aurora Winter is founder of The Peace Method™ and From Heartbreak To Happiness™. She is a coach, speaker, and author of: “From Heartbreak to Happiness: An Intimate Diary of Healing.”

Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “I read every page of this beautiful diary—it touched my heart and I know it will impact yours.”

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