When you hear the word relationship, what is the first thing you think of? The relationship you are in with another. The man or woman you are with, or trying to manifest, your family, your friends or your relationship to the world and all of its creations?
Do you ever contemplate the relationship to yourself? Have you ever tuned into exploring the idea of how to create a lasting relationship with yourself, to the spirit within? A relationship that will never leave you, for it is with you all the time? This is the most important relationship of all. A relationship with your higher self equals a relationship to spirit.
Now ask yourself, have I ever really sat down and thought about my relationship to myself? Am I looking within and thinking about creating a lasting and healthy relationship to myself? Or am I running around unconscious? You may think, “What self do I need to have a strong relationship with? The thinking self? The one that is attached to the mind? Or the one in my heart and soul, the relationship with my higher self, my spirit?
We may meditate, tune in and ask how we are doing, but for the most part we are too busy taking care of everyone else. So we do not put forth much effort into actualizing what messages we were given during the meditation. Or if we are working at it, and we get it, it’s only for a fleeting moment. How do we tap into it when we are not in meditation, how do we keep that feeling all day long?
Some of us are always working on having a better relationship with others, striving toward feeling more connected, but this is not the answer. Have you ever stopped to think, “Will I have more meaningful relationships with others if I cultivate a relationship within myself?” I say yes! This is the key! The key to opening up and having a strong relationship with self is the way to become more connected to others. This connection to self will support us like no other relationship we have ever had.
Some may ask, “How do I have a healthy relationship with myself? Many of us do not know where to start. We are so used to taking care of others that the idea of taking care of ourselves is foreign. Or some of us have been so selfish in the past we think, “ Well, I take care of myself all the time, I have no problem in that area.
I am not talking about the mind. I am talking about something deeper. I am talking about the kind of self-love, self-care that only you can give to yourself. The deep knowing that you are divinely guided. A stronger sense of self, one that your higher self is waiting to give you at all times, if only you were to ask. Stay out of your mind and receive. Remember you are not your mind, you are spirit. Just be... leave yourself alone... get out of your own way.
Now you may think, “Well that’s what they all say. It is easier said than done!” The mind will always want to come in and control. That is its job. It is your job to be aware. Awareness is the solution to creating change. Being aware when the mind comes in and softly thanking it for sharing, then tuning into your higher self, your higher thoughts and changing your vibration. This is the first step.
If we truly begin to connect to ourselves we will have a fuller richer experience with those around us. We will be able to connect at a deeper level with spirit, for as we all know spirit is not outside ourselves, it comes from within. While guiding my group to the ancient ruins of Peru we had incredible awakenings, truths and realizations of who we were in relationship to those around us, seen and unseen. Spirit orbs were everywhere. They kept materializing in our photos.
Looking back as I write this article, I see they were trying to tell us something. In my opinion they were showing themselves to us so we could see what lives inside each of us. We are all bright shinny orbs. Spiritual beings. In the photo Peter Sterling (www.harpmagic.com) and I are at the top of Amantani on Lake Titicaca.
If this is the type of light we have inside us, let us all cultivate it. Make it feel as though we are here for it to manifest through us. We are pure love. Whether or not we feel it, we are. Stay connected to that part of your self. Remember who you are. You are this ball of light.
Spend a few moments everyday connecting with that true self, that inner God or Goddess that dwells in your temple, your body. Become conscious of what you say, eat, spend your time doing. Smile, relax, find ease and grace in everything you do.
When you find your mind wandering off in a negative direction, gently bring it back and remind yourself that you are love, you are spirit. All things come to you effortlessly and easily. Vibrate at the highest frequency possible and connect. Connect to the flowers, the trees, the animals and others, but most of all remember to connect to yourself.
Right here, Right now, close your eyes. Drink in the true beautiful essence of who you are and what your true purpose is here. This is a time of great awakenings. Be conscious of it and transform your life.
Isabella Stoloff is a highly-skilled Shaman-Teacher-Spiritual guide whose techniques are amazing to witness. Her first book is due out later this year. Isabella’s transformational story and shamanic healings have helped many people in stepping forward into a new consciousness. She practices in Fullerton, CA at the Orange County Healing Center and is a Practitioner at the Temple of Light in Lake Forest, CA. She also teaches workshops and guides people on Shamanic Spiritual Journeys to Peru. For more information, visit: http://www.isabellastoloff.com