Are You a Life Toucher?
By Laura V. Hyde



Teach no one that he is what you would not want to be. Your brother is the mirror in which you see the image of yourself. — A Course in Miracles Perhaps the most powerful way we can transform and achieve healing in our relationships is to BE exactly what we WANT. Since like attracts like we can only benefit from thinking and behaving in ways that match what we most desire. As we become more accepting of ourselves and others, more willing to be truly honest, and take responsibility for our lives, the universe will send those who mirror these same uplifting and illuminating qualities. Thus being a role model for others — being the change — is a potent way to uplift and evolve our relationships. So, right now, take a moment to visualize and feel the essences of what you most want in relationship.

In my own life, some of the qualities I appreciate in relationship are captured from the heartfelt words on a poster recently given to me by a friend titled, “I’m A Life Toucher.” This enlightening placard hangs in my office and was created by motivational speaker Bill Sanders. “I’m a Life Toucher” demonstrates that all of us are teaching others in one way or another for we are always leading through example.

Some of the differences between ordinary “teaching” versus being a “Life Toucher” include:

Give examples
Teach a subject
Try to change others
Sometimes get bitter
Don’t like to change
Are interested in teaching
Talk the message


Are the examples
Are subject to touching lives while teaching lessons
Change themselves
Get better and better
Change what they don’t like (by changing the way they look at it)
Are interesting as teachers
Walk the message


Though the above may seem to relate to traditional teaching, it actually pertains to each of us. Becoming clear of the example we’re setting and taking responsibility for, it is essential if we desire to create healthy relationships rich with intimacy, joy, trust and passion. Further, we must remember that everyone in our life is “a relationship”: friends, family, co-workers, neighbors and so on. I’m convinced that great healing would occur if only we were willing to treat our family more like “friends” and our friends more like “family.” Quite often, it’s the amount of disproportionate pressure and expectation we put on family members that causes problems. Some soulful questions to consider are:

1) What kind of relationships do you want and what is keeping you from having them?

2) Are you ready to discover the more genuine “you”, and are you willing to share your genuineness?

3) Are you willing to embrace a new way of living, one that completely honors who you are?

4) Do you feel deserving of having relationships that support you in your highest good?

5) Are you willing to let go of  patterns that are keeping you from being the person you were born to be? 6) Do you believe the time is now for you to truly be what you want?

By truthfully contemplating and answering these questions, you create a safe context for yourself and others to share innermost thoughts, feelings and dreams. As you continue lifting the veils of denial and accessing your deeper truth, ask Higher Guidance to heal those areas you want to change. Alone, none of us are capable of radical shifts in our relationships. We must call upon the transmuting energy that lies within us for any real alteration to occur. Going within enables us to swing open the doors of heightened joy, increased spontaneity, and enhanced intimacy. And honestly, isn’t that what we all long for? A Course in Miracles teaches us this profound sense of oneness is akin to experiencing “heaven on earth.”

The other pre-requisite for heartfelt connections and fulfillment (though by no means the easiest), is forgiveness. Marianne Williamson once asserted, “The key to intimacy is the commitment to honesty and to the radical forgiveness necessary in order for honesty to be safe.”

It is only through our willingness to listen to another through non-judgmental ears and to see another through non-judgmental eyes that we will experience any degree of happiness.

So again, embrace the essences you visualized earlier then ask yourself, “Am I a Life Toucher?” How are your thoughts, words and actions touching others —with truth, acceptance and kindness? If not, know that today is a perfect day for starting again. A dear friend once shared how she gave up an addiction by reminding herself to “never quit quitting.”

We can always start anew, right here, right now. Today is the perfect day for being a Life Toucher, the ideal time for taking an honest inventory of our relationships, letting go of past resentments, asking for healing, and enjoying the rich rewards that result from having the courage to do so. So go ahead, reach out and “touch” someone today…!

Laura V. Hyde is a nationally-acclaimed author, speaker and teacher. Founder of Infinite Wisdom, an organization dedicated to the highest human capacity, Laura provides spiritual counseling, soul purpose coaching, and numerous workshops for awakening the heart and spirit. Laura is the author of “Gifts of the Soul” and “The Intimate Soul,” a syndicated columnist, student of A Course in Miracles, and a visionary speaker on the new thought/ancient wisdom tradition. She is available for speaking engagements throughout the U.S. and Canada. Please visit Laura at  or e-mail:  

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