By Jenny Liu
No matter how big or small your family is, every member is important and each person’s well-being is vital to the whole family’s welfare. That is why in practicing feng shui or creating your living environment, it is essential to consider each family member and his/her birth element and personal energies. When a house’s feng shui is analyzed and adjusted only based on the “head” or breadwinner of the family, he or she may derive benefits; however, the rest of the family may be vulnerable to illness, accidents, or conflicts. Anytime, one family member is in distress, this sets off a chain reaction to affect other members and the head of the household. When this happens, the family goes through constant setbacks that prevent them from moving forward.
I have seen many cases when the breadwinner of the family is the dominant figure and because of their ability to provide, the house is catered to their energies while other family members become weaker and get into a rut. This imbalance creates a strain on family relations that often leads to conflicts between family members. For instance, if there is no compatible room for certain family members, I have seen these members become alienated, spend very little time at home, run away, are easily irritated, defensive or rebellious. In these situations, the feng shui should be especially adjusted to helping these weaker family members.
About 80-90% of the time, spouses have opposite energy patterns and the house they live in is usually more favorable for one than the other. The spouse who lives with the less compatible conditions usually suffers instability in their life. Likewise, children who are sleeping or studying in rooms that are not compatible to them, their unstable energies can make them prone to erratic behavior, laziness, recklessness, lack focus or be attracted to the wrong friends. Any of these factors bring discord to the family as a whole.
When there are no compatible bedrooms for certain family members, or if you find that they are not doing well, it is a good idea to have them spend more time in rooms more compatible to them. Balancing the house’s energy for them brings harmony and peace to the family. In general, the family room, breakfast nook, living room, dining room or den are areas that the whole family tends to gather in and spend time together.
Placing family photos or paintings representing the family in these rooms can reinforce the family’s strength and energy. Family pictures or pictures of individual family members should not be placed by negative elements such as over the fireplace, in front of or over the stove, in front of or over the toilet, in a dark hallway or staircase, in front of or by sculptures or images that are ferocious or potentially harmful such as tigers, swords, darts or guns. The rose quartz crystal can also be used in these rooms to reinforce love, positive relationships and communication.
Jenny Liu holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Environmental Design from UC Berkeley and a Master’s Degree in Architecture from UCLA. She is an expert in the 8,000-year-old Chinese philosophy of Feng Shui who shares her knowledge through seminars, workshops, periodicals and the internet. Ms. Liu is a fourth-generation practitioner with her own consulting firm. For more in-formation please see www.liu-fengshui.com or call (626) 862-1788.
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