73 Years of Life Experiences!
An Interview with Hara Glen
Woman’s Journey to Wholeness
By Lyda Whiting
Many would like to find inner peace, but do not know where to begin the journey. In Woman’s Journey to Wholeness, Hara Glen offers a practical guide to achieving harmony through self-empowerment with easy-to-follow advice. Based on her own experiences, Ms. Glen gently guides the reader to overcoming universal stumbling blocks such as fear, low self-worth, and finding time for ourselves and our spirituality.
Ms. Glen encourages building a sense of self-worth and learning to love ourselves as we are, inspiring us to begin our own journey to wholeness. Especially for those dealing with stress, overwork, addiction, and the pressure to begin what others expect, she suggests beginning by building confidence and self-respect, and learning to feel good about participating in life.
In her book she shares her story about learning that she had breast cancer and how she dealt with it. She transformed her experience by moving past the fear and allowing Divine healing to take place. Her story gives us hope and courage to act in a new way when coping with illness or other challenges.
Ms. Glen writes, “Loving ourselves means nurturing ourselves instead of waiting for someone else to come along to do it for us.” Loving ourselves begins by talking to ourselves gently and lovingly, complimenting ourselves, and being gentle with ourselves. This is something we do for ourselves, but also for everyone: “By creating greater peace, love and harmony within our own lives, it becomes part of an energy system that encompasses all of us.”
A teacher, spiritual counselor, and businesswoman, Ms. Glen worked with special needs children at a private school for many years. She went to hear Louise Hay speak, was so impressed that she later worked with her and became Director of the Hay Institute. Retired early at 62, she had a private practice for three years, and was planning a leisurely retirement with her second husband. Instead, she felt guided to write a book about her experiences. In Woman’s Journey to Wholeness she describes her own journey to renewal and healing, and offers a way for everyone to access their own creativity and self-love.
At 73, Hara Glen is a vibrant and charming woman whose good humor and positive attitude shine through her conversation as well as her writing.
Lyda Whiting: What made you decide to write a book about your life experiences?
Hara Glen: I kept getting these tremendous nudges. I was going to retire, and God didn’t let me. I was moved to write the book. I didn’t know how to do it. I put my fingers on the keyboard and said “God, do this”.
LW: Many people feel rushed and stressed out. They say they don’t have time to take care of themselves. In your book you suggest that women in particular are much too hard on themselves and need to nurture themselves.
HG: If we ever needed to have spiritual nurturing, it is now. There is a basic part of us that doesn’t think we are worthy of really feeling good. We’re rushing around so much that we don’t know what we are doing half the time. There is an energy saying, “More is better, faster is better”. The mindset underneath “be productive” often translates to “be busy”. That’s why it is so hard to sell anyone on quiet time.
If we are hard on ourselves, if we feel guilty, or even harm ourselves in some way because of other’s ideas of what we should be, it injures the very spirit of us. Many things make you feel good for a short time, but don’t work to feed the spirit. We’ve got to stop and nurture ourselves, and allow a higher power to guide us. Especially women need to become more empowered, to get out. Start now! We should go uphill in our forties, especially in our spiritual life. We don’t have to find an excuse to be who we are meant to be.
LW: You offer a simple 8-step guide to self-growth. This is a very easy beginning.
HG: You have to know what you need to do for yourself. It was important to me to keep it simple. I know there are a lot of women out there who aren’t ready for more.
LW: In your book, you recommend spending ten to fifteen minutes a day in quiet reflection. You write, “If we are still long enough and consult our hearts, we will begin to catch a glimpse of who we are.”
HG: When is there time to be still and listen to what your dreams are? Intuition cannot come if you don’t slow down. It is hard to slow down and take time for quiet time. You don’t have to do deep meditation. You do have time for ten minutes. Once you begin, you won’t give it up. You have to be willing to think it is important. Always come back to yourself, not judging but saying, “How can I be good to myself?” Ask for understanding and wisdom, and the answers will come in some form. It takes saying, “Yes!” to that inner voice that is coming through.
LW: You encourage people to get in touch with their bodies, their thoughts and feelings. You suggest that they ask, “Is this decision motivated by love for myself?”
HG: We don’t listen to our bodies. The body is where our intuition manifests. Going within is the key. Take note of what you are thinking and feeling, and how you are acting. Treat yourself in a loving and kind way. Learning to love ourselves unconditionally is a lifetime process. However you approach this, always remember that you are worth feeling good about yourself, and worth having a loving and fulfilling life. Every single one of us has the seed of magnificence in us. You deserve to be that person you were created to be.
LW: What about relationships?
HG: Wherever we are in a relationship is where we need to be. There’s something to be learned. If you are done learning, and the relationship is not working, of course get out of it. I was married for 27 years and then divorced. Then I was single for nineteen years. I was really worn out and I retired. I met a Japanese-American man, courted for three years and then got married. It was a big adventure, going against the norm. It took me four years of marriage to work through my resentment about his focus on work. Now I know that without that, I would never have been able to write my book.
LW: How do we discover and nurture our creativity?
HG: We are all creative beings. It needs to be a co-creation with you and your divine source. You can’t expect God to do it all. You must make some kind of commitment. Any one of us, if we look back through our lives, can see a pattern of what we love to do.
LW: And for you, that is writing?
HG: I love the feeling (of writing); it is something flowing out of me. I say, “Did I write that?” That feeling of fulfillment puts you on a real high. I believe in giving back to life. Writing is the gift God has given me.
LW: You have such a positive attitude on life. You have faced some difficult challenges in your life, and yet you never believed they would defeat you.
HG: We aren’t going to escape illness, trauma, sadness, and loss in our lives. We aren’t always going to get what we want. It is a matter of perceiving things differently. I believe and expect something better. Maybe I have been blessed beyond words. Because someone is really taking care of me, I had the time and opportunity to write this book. My children are ecstatic that I’ve done it. I have been so thrilled; doors have been opening for me.
Hara Glen’s 8-Step guide to self-growth, from Woman’s Journey to Wholeness:
1. Slow down. Inner wisdom cannot come while constantly rushing around.
2. Have quiet time 10-15 minutes per day. Deep breathing helps. (This is a form of meditation. Light a candle to help make it a spiritual experience.)
3. During quiet time, get in touch with your feelings. Tell yourself it is safe to do this. If you have deep traumas, go for professional help.
4. Ask for Divine Guidance.
5. Write what you are feeling in a notebook. Keep it simple.
6. Remind yourself every day you are worth this time alone. It is an act of loving yourself.
7. If you miss a day, do not feel guilty, and do not give up.
8. Give thanks for what you have now, knowing more will come to you.
Published by Rutledge Books, Woman’s Journey to Wholeness is available at local bookstores.
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