By Dr. Maryel McKinley



The Fabric of Self
Meditations on Vanity and Love
By John McAfee
John McAfee is the founder of the Relational Yoga Mandiram in Woodland Park, Colorado, and has taught self-discovery techniques for over 15 years. In “The Fabric of Self,” McAfee  demonstrates the same simple wisdom and mystical insight that one can rely upon when reading any of McAfee’s wonderful books.

This particular gem is filled with thought-provoking meditations that are so clear “The Truth” seems to jump off the pages as you experience one of those often longed for, wondrous “aha” moments!

Here is just a small taste of the soul-satisfying prose waiting for you in “The Fabric of Self.” “Without love you are an empty shell. You may work, hope, dream, seek riches and power, but your conflicts and suffering will continue. The absence of love creates an emptiness that cannot be filled by any ambition, success, pleasure, or possession.  Fear grows in this emptiness. But where love exists, there is fullness and life.” Very fulfilling for the heart and soul, I highly recommend this book.

Published by Woodland Publications, this book is available on    


Buddhism for Lovers and Partners
Creating Enduring Relationships on A Spiritual Path
By Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D.
The author of “If the Buddha Dated,” Dr. Kasl has produced an even better successor to her earlier work with “Buddhism for Lovers and Partners.” As a premarital counselor, I highly recommend this book for couples of all religious backgrounds. It will help couples to draw a road map that will help guide them through even the roughest times.

The unique thing about this book is that the application of spiritual teachings is in relation to our relationships. As fallible human beings we are not taught how to have relationships. We were not given a textbook or manuscript before we went on our first date telling us how to be in relationships with others — sadly this is why so many of us fail at them.

I’ll end with a quote from a Buddhist Blessing in the book. “May all beings everywhere be free from suffering and the root of all suffering. May all beings everywhere find happiness and the root of all  happiness.” That says it all in a nutshell!

Published by Penguin Compass, this book is available at local bookstores.   


The Secret of the Shadow
The Power of Owning Your Own Story
By Debbie Ford
New York Times best-selling author and Chopra Center faculty member, Debbie Ford, has produced her finest work to date with “The Secret of the Shadow.” If you are wondering why you are stuck, why you have had  to go through so many traumas or “unlucky” experiences, and you don’t know how to break out of this pain, this book is for you.

Ford insightfully asks us to consider integrating all the events making up “your individual life” so one can actually find a way to accept oneself; thereby giving you the power to forgive and be grateful for  all that has happened in your life.

Ford suggests you look at your traumas and triumphs as ingredients to a recipe, that when properly “mixed together,” becomes the real you. This whole person, the new you, will be able to shed your old story which is keeping you stuck, enabling you to be free to fulfill your life’s purpose. After doing the exercises in the book, I must say my life has changed in subtle and dramatic ways. Thanks Debbie!

Published by Harper San Francisco, this book is available at local bookstores.    


What Did I Do to Deserve This?
A Step-by-Step Guidebook to Move You
through the Abusive Relationship towards Recovery
By Dr. Joan McNeill
Dr. Joan McNeill’s “What Did I Do to Deserve This?” is by far the most important and influential book written on the subject of recovering  from emotional and physical abuse.

A survivor herself, Dr. McNeill wrote this book in response to the demand of patients in her clinical practice and volunteer groups at the YMCA.

McNeill takes the unprecedented approach of congratulating the reader for coming this far. Like a best friend or personal coach, she envelops the reader with love, safety, suggestions and meditations for real transformation.

In this well written and poignant book, McNeill teaches that change is temporary, whereas transformation is lasting, and how to utilize your experience to help yourself and others.

Her approach to healing is all encompassing, inviting the physical, spiritual, emotional and mental needs of the person to be addressed. I strongly recommend this book.  

Published By Mosley Publishing Group, this book is available at local bookstores.   


A Novel
By Deepak Chopra
Deepak has done it again; he has surpassed his personal best with his newest novel. “Soul-mates” is a riveting story about an Indian American New York Psychiatric Intern who on his journey to find love finds that life and death are two sisters whose fate is intertwined.

The immersing story of Dr. Raj Rabban, his two lovers Maya and Molly, and the fascinating characters who were the patients on his nightly rounds at the psychiatric hospital ward, made “Soulmates” a book that was nearly impossible to put down!

“Soulmates” is about the mystery that is love, and the light of love that pierces through the veil of even the most troubled souls. It is about the depths and breadths of love, beyond the physical realm, and how “It” is reaching out to heal us if we only would allow “It”. Well done Deepak!

Published by Putnam, this book is available at local bookstores.   

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