Know Who You Are and Attract the Love of Your Life
By Jenny T. Liu, M.A.



For many of us, finding the right person to share our lives with is a major goal and enhances the meaning of life. Feng Shui principles are based on the natural laws of attraction. When there is too much of one frequency in our environment, we balance it by adding a promoting frequency, thus creating wholeness.

These natural laws of attraction are similarly applied toward creating balanced relationships. Two of the most powerful laws to heed when attracting a love relationship are the Yin Yang Theory and Karma.

Knowing who you are, how you move through life, and what you expect from life are important points to be aware of when looking for a mate. If you are unrealistic about who you are, your frequency will likely be weak and confusing to others, preventing you from attracting the right person.

Because we know that like frequencies attract like frequencies, the more positive energy you build up in yourself, the better chance you have of attracting someone with the same positive energy. Don't confuse "frequency" with "personality trait." You can be dominant and your partner can be flexible, but you exhibit your opposite traits in a positive manner.

Cultivate a radiant aura around yourself which is the exterior manifestation of your inner energy. Self-confidence, positive attitude, values, and self-awareness all contribute to radiating a positive aura. When your aura is positive, it attracts other positive auras.

Yin Yang
 The easily-recognized Yin Yang symbol is a circle that is half white and half black. Within the black half, there is a white spot, and within the white half, there is a black spot. This signifies the phenomenon of opposite but complementary attributes achieving balance. There is some white in the black and some black in the white.

The idea of opposite but complementary is what we strive for in a relationship and symbolizes balance, understanding, tolerance, and appreciation for that which may be different from us, but supportive and enhancing at the same time.

Take the example of the personality traits of dominance and flexibility. If both partners in a relationship have dominant personalities, there will likely be struggles. If both partners are too flexible, there may be indecision and floundering.

However if one is more dominant and the other more flexible, and each person appreciates this quality in the other, then a strong, healthy relationship is formed. The key is appreciation for what each person brings to the partnership.

It might not always be possible to change your personality, but if you can take a truthful assessment of your main traits you will have better luck finding the right match. Are you patient or assertive? Are you independent and like doing things your own way, or do you prefer someone guiding you?

Knowing if you are a creature of habit or flexible, extroverted or introverted, and understanding your faults and qualities will help you appreciate the opposite in someone else. Two people with opposite, or complementary traits, create balance when there is acceptance.

Feelings about your career are also very important because so many of us define who we are with what we do. Your career is a source of self-esteem and financial stability. When you are in a compatible career, it is easier for you to be successful, content, and feel confident; giving off a positive aura that will attract successful, confident people as well.

Honesty in regards to what yours and your partner's sexual appetite and needs are will help to keep your love quality high. This honesty will also prevent straying outside of the relationship to seek what you lack, and being easily tempted by a third-party person.

Your values affect how you make decisions in your life. When you are with a partner with the same values, decision-making as a team will be easier and your bond will grow strong. You will have a common foundation from which to make important decisions regarding investments, child rearing, and career moves.

Another undeniable natural law that affects those we attract and are attracted to is karma. When you have a very strong karmic bond with someone from a previous life, there is an uncompleted task of yours or theirs that needs completing. With previous shared karma it is easy to be attracted to each other.

Perhaps in a previous life, your partner took care of you and you did not appreciate them. Now you are back together in this lifetime to pay and clear that debt. Each relationship you have in this lifetime, whether it is with family, a friend, or a lover, is to provide lessons.

Relationships let us see who we are - for better or for worse - and if we are willing to honestly look at ourselves, we can learn what we need to do to move forward. Until you learn these lessons, you will encounter the same issues and obstacles, either in this lifetime or the next.

If you are continually attracted to the same type of person, and this person's energy does not promote a healthy, fulfilling relationship, be honest and open to the insights you receive while you are with them, acknowledge the mistake (and the lesson) and move on to someone else who is a better match. Also, do not have any regrets for the relationships you have had that did not work out, for there is knowledge to be gained from every experience.

Unless you possess a trait that is harmful to yourself or others, try not to judge yourself or change into something you think is desirable. You will be putting out a false image of yourself, your aura will not be as bright, and you could possibly attract the wrong person. When you appreciate your unique view of life and are honest about who you are, you are more likely to find that perfect fit.

Remember no one is perfect. Without dwelling on them, be aware of your shortcomings and qualities and set reasonable expectations for your partner. With self-awareness, the message you send out will attract a person whose energy thrives when they are around you, as your energy thrives when you are around them.

Jenny Liu holds a Bachelors' Degree in Environmental Design from UC Berkeley and a Masters Degree in Architecture from UCLA. She is an expert in the 8,000-year-old Chinese philosophy of Feng Shui who shares her knowledge through seminars, workshops, periodicals and the Internet. Awarded for her Master's Thesis on Feng Shui, Ms. Liu is a fourth-generation practitioner with her own consulting firm. For more information, visit: Liu-FengShui.com or call her at (626) 272-4901.


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