Animal Relationship Experts
By Allen and
Year after year, we receive hundreds of stories in which people say they have
experienced richer, fuller, more compassionate, and loving relationships due to
the bond they feel with a beloved pet. We’ve concluded that experiencing the
unconditional love of a pet helps people become better human beings.
Part of deepening relationships is to come to the aid of a friend who is in
trouble. The true test comes if it must withstand or crumble when times are
tough. A fifth grader in a middle school, where we spoke about our Angel Animals
book series, demonstrated the truth of this important lesson.
At the school presentation we had invited the children to share animal stories.
It was so much fun to watch their faces light up as they told about special
pets. They also asked good writing questions such as, “What is your favorite
One little girl came up to the front of the room to tell a story that
illustrated what she had learned about relationships by observing the family’s
pet fish. The fishes’ caretaker had made a mistake by placing a predatory fish
in the tank. The big fish had eaten all but a few of the smaller fish by the
time the humans had discovered the tragedy.
This fifth grader had watched in awe as one of the medium-sized fish nudged the
tiniest fish to the bottom of the tank where he hid him behind a clump of algae.
Then the protector fish used his body as a shield to keep the big fish from
finding the littler one.
We noticed that in the theatre-style hall where we were speaking, the
one-hundred middle-grade students had become very quiet. The girl’s experience
with her fish had struck a chord. Many of them liked the idea of being protected
or serving as the protector for those who are smaller or weaker. The
relationships of the girl’s fish swimming in a tank and looking out for one
another had helped bring a message to the children about bravery and loyalty.
Animal Relationship Reminders
People work hard and often forget that
they need to take time for rest and recreation. Does a dog, cat, bird, ferret,
rabbit, hamster, or reptile animal companion tell you when it is time to stop
working and play? That’s how it works in our home.
Our black-and-white kitty Cuddles has become timekeeper for our breaks, sleep,
and food. Cuddles is fine with the hours we spend working as long as we stay in
balance. Often, she supports us keeping her tail from waving and blocking the
monitor when she’s sitting on top of it. We love how she quietly moves into a
Buddha-like pose while staring at the computer. Who knows what she’s
But when it gets late and we’re overdoing, Cuddles begins her task of ending the
workday. She looks at us as if to say, “Okay, enough!” Then she plops down on
and covers the one paper we need in order to continue our writing tasks. She
makes sure we can’t see the monitor through her waving tale. She won’t move away
and shows a rock-solid determination. Cuddles keeps her eyes steadily on us
until we say, “You’re right. Time to rest.”
Sometimes we hear from people who
wonder if there’s something wrong with them because they have never had a close
relationship with an animal. Often, this is due to some fearful experience that
has caused them to be anxious or avoid contact with animals.
Of course, we tell them that it is common sense to be cautious around animals
who don’t know you. But also we encourage them to find safe environments where
they can get to know an animal who has a mellow nature and is under control by a
The following story comes from Connie in
Singapore. Her relationship mender turned out to be
a dog. Because of her deeply-rooted fear, Connie had never allowed herself to
enjoy the unconditional love a dog could give. It took getting to know Angus to
help her grow more comfortable being around dogs.
By nature, I am absolutely scared of dogs. This situation improved after I had a
vision appear before me to indicate that during one lifetime, I had been a
trapper who was trapped by a wolf. As the trapper in that lifetime, I had
accidentally kicked off the wolf’s cage hook, and he attacked and devoured me.
Dogs are in the family line of
wolves, so this memory explained my fear of dogs.
Once, when I visited
London, I was invited to stay at a friend’s home in
Richmond, which was accessible by the underground train from the city. My friend
lived with her youngest daughter and a pet dog, Angus Scott, in the three-story
building. My friend knew about my fear of dogs and warned that I would have to
learn to cope with it if I were to stay with her.
Since staying with my friend would save me a lot of money on hotels, which are
pretty expensive in
London because of the difference in currencies
between there and my home in
Singapore, I knew I would have to try to overcome my
My friend’s daughter, Vivian, picked up my husband, Cher Min, and me from the
airport. We arrived at their home, and Angus started jumping and barking like
crazy. I spoke to the dog mentally and said, “I am scared of dogs. Just do not
climb all over me.” During the entire week of my stay, Angus did not once jump
on me but he did climb on Cher Min all the time.
Angus was so smart. He understood my fear and tried hard to make friends with
me. And he succeeded! He always looked at me lovingly, but I dared not respond
for fear he might interpret my acceptance as an invitation for him to jump on
One evening Cher Min and I returned home after a day out. Angus ran to get my
bedroom slippers, which I always wear at home. He held the pair of slippers in
his mouth and looked at Cher Min and me for a few seconds. He was confused.
There was only one pair of slippers but two of us. He then dropped one slipper
in front of Cher Min and the other in front of me.
From that point on, Angus took his toys and placed them in front of me. This was
his signal that he wanted me to play with him. So I threw his toy ball for him
to pick up. Then he’d put the toys in front of me again, and I would repeat the
I bought something for him to munch on one day, and he looked at me with loving
eyes. Yet he still kept to his promise not to crawl all over me. But finally I
became brave enough to stroke him, and he loved it. He still took great care not
to snuggle against me, though. He really could read my mind.
Angus has shown me that dogs are really smart creatures. Though I do not have
experiences yet with cats and other animals, I am sure they all have the same
ability to understand and love human beings. It is good to be able to
communicate with animals. You can tell them all your problems, share joys and
sorrows, and they will not betray you but only give you plenty of divine love.
What are animals trying to teach you about relationships?
Allen and Linda
Anderson are founders of the Angel Animals Network and authors of a series of
books published by New World Library about the spiritual connection between
people and animals. “Angel Animals: Divine Messengers of Miracles” is their
newest book. Subscribe to the free, online Angel Animals Story of the Week at
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