Are You Obsessed with Food?
By Marylin Stompler
Just a few years ago, food was more important to me than anything else in my
life. My life was empty, and I filled it with food. I thought of food constantly
and obsessively. All my thoughts centered around when and what I was going to
eat next. I could not give up food because I felt deprived and unsatisfied
without it.
I was in a constant struggle because I wanted to be thin (or so I thought), but
I was addicted to food, and I lived to eat. I would rather eat than be thin, and
I made the subconscious decision to stay overweight so that I could eat whatever
I liked, even though I felt guilty and miserable about it. I was afraid to give
up food and the comfort I derived from it. Today, I am fortunate to be free of
my food obsession.
How about you? Are you obsessed with food? Is food so important to you that you
can’t give up overeating? Would you rather be overweight so you do not have to
restrain yourself? Do you want to be thin consciously, yet, subconsciously, you
would rather eat and be overweight than give up food? If eating is one of the
most pleasurable things in your life, you will keep on eating to feel pleasure,
and you won’t care about how much you weigh. You will just want to eat.
Having a healthy relationship with food requires self-love, discipline, and
commitment. It is easier to be overweight. You do not have to restrain your
eating if you have given up being thin. Many people prefer to be overweight
because they got into this habit of overeating, and they just don’t want to
discipline themselves around food. They overeat and don’t want to stop.
Subconsciously, they would rather be overweight and eat whatever they want than
be thin.
You need to figure out what is most important for you and make a decision. Are
you ready to let go of your food obsessions and reap the rewards of a healthy
lifestyle with vibrant energy and health as well as a fitter, leaner body. Or,
are you going to stay obsessed with foods for the rest of your life and miss out
on the precious jewels that life has to offer you. It is time for you to decide
what you want! When you don’t know what you want, you make the wrong choices
simply because they seem to be the right ones at the time and they fill, in the
short term, an emotional void.
Here is some advice on what to do once you decide to clean up your
relationship with food:
Find Food Substitutes
You need to find other things in life that are better than eating. Here is
your homework! Make a list of as many things as you can think of that bring you
happiness and pleasure and that you can do instead of overeating. Here are some
ideas to get you started: listen to great music, dance, talk to loved ones, have
a hobby such as beading or gardening, work out, walk, take a bubble bath,
breathe deeply, etc. Once your list is created, do something from the list every
time you want to overeat. It takes 21 days to break a habit, so do this for 21
days and see if you can change your behavior permanently.
Eliminate Your Food Cravings
If you have a strong craving for a certain food, ask yourself what it is
that you are really craving. Are you craving love, affection, respect? What is
the food you crave giving you that you cannot give yourself? You need to know
that food cravings typically result from emotional imbalances in your body and
can be significantly reduced or completely eliminated with emotional release
techniques. Releasing your food cravings will make it easier for you to eat
healthy.
Let Go of Your Food Obsessions
If you want to have a healthy relationship with food, you must stop
constantly thinking about it. The more you obsess about the foods you cannot
have, the more you want them.
We are like children. If something is forbidden, we want it. When we forbid
ourselves to eat what we love, we make ourselves want these foods even more. If
someone tells us not to think about a blue elephant, we think about a blue
elephant.
If we constantly think, “I cannot eat this cookie,” the only thing we think
about is eating the cookie. I recommend that you eat your favorite, unhealthy
foods in moderation and only occasionally. Depriving yourself of these foods
will make you obsess about them.
Release Your Subconscious Blocks
As you may know, the conscious mind only influences ten percent of your
actions, while the subconscious mind controls the other ninety percent. Even if
you make a conscious decision to eat healthy, you still need to overcome your
subconscious blocks to it: the invisible blocks making you fail, no matter how
hard you try to eat healthy. It is critical for you to let them go.
You need to understand it is a lifelong decision to have a healthy relationship
with foods — not just a short-term meant to lose a few pounds you will gain back
within two years, as 90% of people who lose weight do. When you decide to have a
healthy relationship with food, you must also decide to have a healthy
relationship with yourself, filled with love and respect for yourself and your
body. It is a wonderful act of self-love, and now is the time for you to love
yourself by eating healthy.
Marylin Stompler is the author of the book “Fat No More, Release the
Subconscious Blocks that Prevent your Weight Loss.” Marylin Stompler uses
release techniques to eliminate food cravings and obsessions. For information on
Fat No More coaching programs and workshops, visit
www.fatnomore.com,
email m@fatnomore or call (760) 730-3756. To receive the “Fat No More Secrets”
eBook, visit
www.fatnomoresecrets.com
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