Are You Obsessed with Food?
By Marylin Stompler

Just a few years ago, food was more important to me than anything else in my life. My life was empty, and I filled it with food. I thought of food constantly and obsessively. All my thoughts centered around when and what I was going to eat next. I could not give up food because I felt deprived and unsatisfied without it.

I was in a constant struggle because I wanted to be thin (or so I thought), but I was addicted to food, and I lived to eat. I would rather eat than be thin, and I made the subconscious decision to stay overweight so that I could eat whatever I liked, even though I felt guilty and miserable about it. I was afraid to give up food and the comfort I derived from it. Today, I am fortunate to be free of my food obsession.

 How about you? Are you obsessed with food? Is food so important to you that you can’t give up overeating? Would you rather be overweight so you do not have to restrain yourself? Do you want to be thin consciously, yet, subconsciously, you would rather eat and be overweight than give up food? If eating is one of the most pleasurable things in your life, you will keep on eating to feel pleasure, and you won’t care about how much you weigh. You will just want to eat.

Having a healthy relationship with food requires self-love, discipline, and commitment. It is easier to be overweight. You do not have to restrain your eating if you have given up being thin. Many people prefer to be overweight because they got into this habit of overeating, and they just don’t want to discipline themselves around food. They overeat and don’t want to stop. Subconsciously, they would rather be overweight and eat whatever they want than be thin.

You need to figure out what is most important for you and make a decision. Are you ready to let go of your food obsessions and reap the rewards of a healthy lifestyle with vibrant energy and health as well as a fitter, leaner body. Or, are you going to stay obsessed with foods for the rest of your life and miss out on the precious jewels that life has to offer you. It is time for you to decide what you want! When you don’t know what you want, you make the wrong choices simply because they seem to be the right ones at the time and they fill, in the short term, an emotional void.

Here is some advice on what to do once you decide to clean up your relationship with food:

Find Food Substitutes
You need to find other things in life that are better than eating. Here is your homework! Make a list of as many things as you can think of that bring you happiness and pleasure and that you can do instead of overeating. Here are some ideas to get you started: listen to great music, dance, talk to loved ones, have a hobby such as beading or gardening, work out, walk, take a bubble bath, breathe deeply, etc. Once your list is created, do something from the list every time you want to overeat. It takes 21 days to break a habit, so do this for 21 days and see if you can change your behavior permanently.

Eliminate Your Food Cravings
If you have a strong craving for a certain food, ask yourself what it is that you are really craving. Are you craving love, affection, respect? What is the food you crave giving you that you cannot give yourself? You need to know that food cravings typically result from emotional imbalances in your body and can be significantly reduced or completely eliminated with emotional release techniques. Releasing your food cravings will make it easier for you to eat healthy.

Let Go of Your Food Obsessions
If you want to have a healthy relationship with food, you must stop constantly thinking about it. The more you obsess about the foods you cannot have, the more you want them.

We are like children. If something is forbidden, we want it. When we forbid ourselves to eat what we love, we make ourselves want these foods even more. If someone tells us not to think about a blue elephant, we think about a blue elephant.
If we constantly think, “I cannot eat this cookie,” the only thing we think about is eating the cookie. I recommend that you eat your favorite, unhealthy foods in moderation and only occasionally. Depriving yourself of these foods will make you obsess about them.

Release Your Subconscious Blocks
As you may know, the conscious mind only influences ten percent of your actions, while the subconscious mind controls the other ninety percent. Even if you make a conscious decision to eat healthy, you still need to overcome your subconscious blocks to it: the invisible blocks making you fail, no matter how hard you try to eat healthy. It is critical for you to let them go.

You need to understand it is a lifelong decision to have a healthy relationship with foods — not just a short-term meant to lose a few pounds you will gain back within two years, as 90% of people who lose weight do. When you decide to have a healthy relationship with food, you must also decide to have a healthy relationship with yourself, filled with love and respect for yourself and your body. It is a wonderful act of self-love, and now is the time for you to love yourself by eating healthy.

Marylin Stompler is the author of the book “Fat No More, Release the Subconscious Blocks that Prevent your Weight Loss.” Marylin Stompler uses release techniques to eliminate food cravings and obsessions. For information on Fat No More coaching programs and workshops, visit, email m@fatnomore  or call (760) 730-3756. To receive the “Fat No More Secrets” eBook, visit

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