The Magic Key to Great Relationships!
By Iris Fanning, Life Coach
“I love thee, I love but thee; with a love that shall not die; til the sun
grows cold and the stars grow old.”
“The course of true love never did run smooth.”
There are many reasons good relationships continue to be really good. I would need to write a book to cover all the aspects.
Instead, I am going to keep it simple and give you one key that will help you enjoy and sustain your partnership. Are you ready? OK, memorize this thought.
People fall in love with you because of how they feel about themselves when they are with you.
When that person falls in love with you, they feel smarter, funnier, prettier,
taller, thinner, more confident, more loving, walking on air, sexier, happier,
healthier and like they can master anything.
One of the simplest ways to create your great relationship is to check in and see if you feel like this in your partner’s presence and if they feel like this in yours!
Here are a few easy things you can do to encourage you and your beloved to feel
wonderful in each others’ presence.
1. Always say good morning to your partner.
2. Never leave one another without saying “I love you” and kissing each other.
3. Always tell your partner how beautiful, handsome or sexy they are.
4. Hold hands when you walk together.
5. Tell your partner they are the best!
6. Tell your partner they’re brilliant.
7. Listen to your love.
8. Never go to bed mad.
9. Never say anything that will damage your love’s opinion of themselves.
10. Often go the extra mile so your love doesn’t have to work so hard.
FEEL THE LOVE
First, jot down how you feel about your partner currently and how you think they feel when they are with you. Then write 10 more things that you can do to make your partner feel special. Now, do several of these things a day. Do this without the expectation of getting 1 for 1 in return. Then notice how you feel and notice the reactions of your beloved. Write this down and notice any changes. Again, keep a notebook or computer page so you can see your growth during this year. Enjoy!
WHY LISTEN TO ME?
What makes me an expert in relationships? Of course I have the credentials (M.A. & B.S. in Psychology, Counseling & Guidance; Graduate of Coach University; Awards from: The New Mexico Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, Community Agencies and Albuquerque Public Schools; Over 20 Years experience in Coaching and Counseling).
Additionally, what makes me a credible expert is that Ken and I have been
happily married for 23 years. We continue to enjoy one another, have fun, learn
and grow in all kinds of ways.
Want confirmation? Our 20-year-old son said to me this summer, “Mom, you may not always think I listen to you. When it comes to relationships and marriage, I really listen to you. I have watched you and Dad. I see how happy you are, how much you love each other, how close you are, how much you like spending time together and what fun you have. Of course I am going to listen to you about relationships.”
Coaching can move you toward fulfilling relationships more quickly with
playfulness and joy.
Contact Iris Fanning at: www.irisfanning.homestead.com, www.irisfanning.com or (505) 821-6018. Enjoy the FREE weekly coaching newsletter at the website.
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