10 Ways to Create Romantic Space in the Bedroom
By Jenny T. Liu, M.A.



Romantic spaces are very important in creating and sustaining loving, and strong relationships in which we feel secure. I have outlined ten basics in creating a romantic space. A space can be customized for you and your partner, but the ten points below are the foundation upon which you can build a romantic haven.

1) Bedroom size should be in proportion to the people living there. A person’s energy aura is about ten feet in diameter, making the ideal size for a master bedroom containing two people 20’ x 20’. 15’ x 15’ is also acceptable. A smaller room may feel claustrophobic and create stress. If you are single and the second person is not permanent or is an infrequent visitor, you can get by with a 12’ x 12’ room. hen a room is too big in a house that is spacious, it can feel cold, empty and insecure.

2) Bed size should be in proportion to those who are using it and the mattress quality should be compatible with those sleeping on it. If you and your partner are very big and tall, you should sleep on a California king-sized bed to feel comfortable and secure. Regarding mattress quality, if the mattress is too soft and you are sharing intimacy with your partner, it may feel like the bed is going to collapse, which does not promote security. If the mattress is too firm, you will likely feel uncomfortable and stiff. If your partner prefers very firm and you prefer very soft, you have to find a balance.

3) The bed should be located in a stable area of the room. The headboard should be against a solid wall, and the bed should not be aligned with doors, including bathroom doors attached to the bedroom. This is for comfort and security. If someone enters your bedroom and can run into the bed while walking straight ahead, then it is aligned with the door and the position should be adjusted.

4) The bedroom should be located in a compatible direction. This one is vital. Based on your birth date we can find out which direction matches your unique energy and hopefully, your partner’s, too. In my experience, 80-90% of couples are of opposite direction patterns. One is Eastern Direction Pattern and one is Western Direction Pattern.
Most likely, the bedroom will match one person more than the other, so you have to make adjustments. If you do not make adjustments, the person for whom the room does not match tends to be unstable, has more complaints, gets sick, has problems with their career and so forth. This creates imbalance in the relationship and no matter how romantic the space looks, the tension will be there.

5) There should be a sense of privacy. The bedroom should be a sacred place where you feel secure. Make sure you can cover windows easily to ensure privacy when you are being intimate. Doors should close securely to prevent children from charging in at any minute.

6) Control the noise level as much as possible. The bedroom should be a serene place where you can connect with your partner without being distracted by the sound of cars, machinery, neighbor’s telephones or noise in adjacent rooms.

7) Keep the bedroom clean and clutter free. The cleanliness of a room affects your state of mind. If clothes are thrown everywhere, dirty laundry is sitting around, or the bed needs to be made, it is hard to create romance. Maintain an open, fresh, and clean bedroom.

8) The temperature should be comfortable and not too cold or too hot. When it is too cold, the clothes won’t come off when you feel romantic! If it is too hot and the air is stagnant, it feels too stuffy and does not induce the desire to be close to your partner. Don’t place fans or heaters too close to the bed which can disrupt your respiratory system. In the summer when it is very warm — especially in Southern California — we turn the air-conditioner on. If the vent happens to be very close to, or right over the bed, it creates a draft that is constantly blowing on you. Not only does this affect your health, but it also creates discomfort when you are being intimate.

9) The air quality should be fresh and clean. You can use aromatherapy, but be sure to use the right type, right amount and a good quality of oil or scent.

10) Use appropriate visuals. We are affected by what we see because it stimulates our mind, our subconscious, and creates our outward behavior in a relationship. Images in your bedroom should depict love, nature and romantic memories. These might be positive pictures of you and your partner together, positive events, or pictures of people in your life who have contributed to making your relationship successful and strong. Include a pair of positive, symbolic animals that are compatible to you and your partner and hang special Chi Art that has symbols and mantras that match you to enhance your love.
Creating and empowering a space with the above points in mind will help maintain a successful relationship, or attract the right one!

Jenny Liu holds a Bachelors’ Degree in Environmental Design from UC Berkeley and a Masters Degree in Architecture from UCLA. She is an expert in the 8,000-year-old Chinese philosophy of Feng Shui who also shares her knowledge through seminars, workshops, periodicals and the Internet. Awarded for her Master’s Thesis on Feng Shui, Ms. Liu is a fourth-generation practitioner with her own consulting firm. For more information, please see her website at www.Liu-FengShui.com  or call her at (626) 272-4901.

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