Creating Romantic Spaces
By Jenny T. Liu, M.A.
Love is a euphoric state of being; it makes us feel powerful, confident, safe, wanted, useful, and content. Humans and animals alike can die, get sickly, and suffer depression or commit suicide without love. Without love, there would be no life. It is vital for us to create romantic spaces where we can connect with our emotions, bond and reinforce our love ó spaces that celebrate and create balance in our love relationships.
There are ten basic points to creating the foundation upon which you can build a romantic haven:
The bedroom should be located in a compatible direction based on you and your partnerís birth dates. In my experience, 80 to 90% of couples are of opposite direction patterns. Most likely, the bedroom will match one person more than the other, so you must make adjustments to compensate, otherwise it may create an imbalanced relationship that can disrupt the relationship.
Bedroom size should be in proportion to the people living there. A personís energy aura is about ten feet in diameter, making the ideal size for a master bedroom containing two people 20í x 20í or at least, 15í x 15í. A room smaller than that for two people may feel claustrophobic and create stress.
Bed size and firmness should be compatible with those sleeping on it. Without receiving proper support and good rest, we cannot maintain our health nor our relationships.
The bed should be located with the headboard against a solid wall. For comfort, gathering energy and sense of security, the bed should also not be aligned with doors, including bathroom doors that are attached to the bedroom.
There should be a sense of privacy. The bedroom should be a sacred
place where you will feel secure. Make sure you can cover windows
easily to ensure privacy when you are being intimate.
Control the noise level as much as possible. The bedroom should be a serene place where you can connect with your partner without being distracted by the sound of cars, machinery, phones or the noise in adjacent rooms.
Keep the bedroom clean and clutter free.
The temperature should not be too hot or too cold. If air vents are right over the bed and create a draft that constantly blows on you, not only does this affect your health, but it also creates discomfort and distraction during intimacy.
The air quality should be fresh and clean. Stagnant air, musty rooms, too many burning candles, pet smells, and stale food do not induce a romantic state of mind. You can use aromatherapy, but be sure to use the right type, right amount and a high-quality oil or scent.
The images in your bedroom should depict love, nature and romantic memories. Visuals stimulate our mind, our subconscious and affect our outward behavior in a relationship.
We can also approach romantic spaces through the Five Element Theory. The first step is to calculate the birth charts of you and your loved one, and figure out what your elements are for promoting love. Once you know what your element for promoting love is, you have limitless ways to apply that information to your home. You can use a combination of your elements if they are different, apply them to different rooms or if the bedroom or room is only compatible to one person, adjust the feng shui to support the person it does not match.
For instance, if your promoting element is fire. You and your partner happen to love cooking and eating together, then, the romantic space for you would be the kitchen and/or dining room. Fire is associated with the heart and the eyes. So, appeal to the visual senses through art and special lighting. Perhaps, you may have soft ambient lighting, tabletop candles, or photos of happy memories. You may want to use the fire colors of red, pink, magenta or burgundy. There may be a beautiful bouquet of pink roses or a single red rose.
In another example, suppose you and your husband have different love-promoting elements such as wood and water. Your romantic space may be a garden with a special water feature such as a fountain or pond, or if you have it, a large master bath that is converted into a garden spa for two. In either space, you want to create an invigorating and yet tranquil atmosphere. The garden or spa might have fragrant flowers and a place to enjoy a refreshing beverage, and listen to the water with your partner.
Now, what if the bedroom is where you need the most romance but it only matches one partner? Use his/her promoting element to strengthen them in their incompatible room. Assuming the promoting element is earth which relates to our flesh, of touch, of the connection between our mind/spirit/body. The colors to use would be earth tones of yellow, taupe, browns, tans and peach. Textures and materials are important to the sense of touch. Warm stones such as travertine, limestone or terracotta are desirable.
Bedding should be soft to the touch, such as Egyptian cotton, chenille, or satin. Yellow crystals and stone tools used for massage should be at hand. If this is a negative element for the other partner who is compatible to the room, then use it in combination with their promoting element. For instance if their promoting element is wood, use plants, but yellow flowers such as the chrysanthemum or sunflower. If it is fire, appeal to the sense of sight, but use images of earth such as mountains or elegant nudes.
Given these basic tools, use your imagination and realize that the very thought, act and desire to create a romantic space empowers your love relationship. Remember energies change and you and your partner will change through the course of your relationship. Use feng shui in creating romantic spaces to ignite, grow, maintain and cultivate yourself and your loved one.
Jenny Liu holds a Bachelorís Degree in Environmental Design from UC Berkeley and a Masterís Degree in Architecture from UCLA. She is an expert in the 8,000-year-old Chinese philosophy of Feng Shui who also shares her knowledge through seminars, workshops, periodicals and the internet. Awarded for her Masterís Thesis on Feng Shui, Ms. Liu is a fourth-generation practitioner with her own consulting firm. For more information, see www.liu-fengshui.com
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