Choosing to Live as a Master
By Dr. Scott and Shannon Peck


Love is a choice.
Much of our growth in love, unfortunately, occurs from the pain of failed relationships. Moving higher in love, however, can occur without pain. We can choose a higher level of love consciousness and action — and reap the immense benefits of living as a love master.

Isn’t it strange that society so easily uses the terms “web master,” “concert master,” and “yoga master,” but not the term “love master?” Love is the arena where we most need to be experts. Let’s look inside the core of being a love master and move together to a higher and more fulfilling place of love.

Key #1: Ground yourself in love.

That’s the first key inside the heart of a love master. We choose to look out on the entire world and see each other as love beings, rather than as individuals separated by gender, nationality, religion, or politics. We think like this, with the eyes of love, because we know that love is universal. Love is compassionate, unifying, and embracing of each one of us. Such grounding in love moves our hearts into a place of great peace and power. It prepares our lives for living in ways that unite, embrace, and honor rather than in ways that separate, judge, or demean. Grounding ourselves in love opens the door to amazing heart connections.

Key #2: Connect to the heart.

A love master is highly tuned to those first 10 seconds of encountering another person. These are the magic seconds where someone in our presence will either feel loved — or not. What a big moment to choose love! As a love master, for example, we look someone in the eyes, with transparent love, for 4 seconds rather than the obligatory 1 second. The difference is extraordinary. We let our eyes, smile, and inner love grounding create heart safety for the person in front of us without even uttering a word. Connecting to another’s heart instantly opens the door to fulfilling love expansion.

Key #3: Expand love.

Everyone needs more love. A love master knows this without even needing evidence. Such love empathy causes us to be proactive love expanders. We ask simple love questions rather than more common, superficial questions. “What’s the most significant thing going on in your life right now?” is a great love question. “What’s going on in your heart right now?” is another. Then we listen deeply — with open, inviting, and non-judging hearts. You’ll be utterly amazed at how quickly and deeply love expands with such caring love questions. Remember, the sacred question of a love master is not, “How loving do I think I am?” but “How loved does another person feel in my presence?”  We want others to experience genuine love in our presence. Such motivation causes our love to expand – and heal.

Key #4: Heal with your love.

As love masters, we choose healing words. We speak as love. We speak with honesty that is simultaneously full of kindness. We honor other’s divinity, comfort their troubled hearts, encourage their new wings, and hold the space within our hearts for their flourishing. This is love healing and moves our lives (and those we are with) into the vastly healing waters of love.

Living as a love master is a choice that floods our lives with love richness. During the next several hours, practice being a love master. Silently ground yourself in love’s vision for humanity. Let your eyes and heart create love connections with others. Let your love questions gently expand your relationships. Let your sweet words bring healing. Welcome to the heart of love.

© Copyright 2004 Scott and Shannon Peck

Dr. Scott Peck and Shannon Peck are Co-founders of TheLoveCenter, a non-profit educational organization holding the space for all humanity to live in healing Love. They are authors of “The Love You Deserve,” “Liber-ating Your Magnificence,” and “All the Love You Could Ever Want!” (audio set). Shannon’s new book, “Love Heals: How to Heal Everything with Love,” has just been released. For more love, visit, email , or call (800) 266-1525.

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