While everyone has feelings, women corner the market when it comes to actually experiencing those feelings. Everyone knows we cry at parades and weddings, shriek gleefully when we get what we want, and snarl menacingly when our children are in danger. Likewise, everyone expects men to be cool and strong in these very same situations.
A woman's emotional facility, it turns out, is really one of her greatest assets. Used consciously, her feelings can help her create loving, nurturing homes; a healthy, global ecology, and peace among nations and tribes. This is possible because her ability to feel actually makes it very easy for her to know what she believes and, therefore, creates in her life. (Remember Wayne Dyer's famous title, "You'll See It When You Believe It")
Let's take a peek at what this looks like. Think of the last time you felt a negative emotion of any kind or magnitude, and then ask yourself what you feared. Whatever your answer, it reveals a belief you hold, and therefore inadvertently create.
For example, Barbara felt angry when she got off the phone with her mother, even though her mother had been quite pleasant. When she explored what she feared, Barbara realized that she feared she could not have her way and that she always had to agree with her mother.
The simplicity of this is that fears are really just beliefs. Barbara feared that she could not have her way because she believed she could not have her way. Barbara feared that she would have to agree with her mother because she believed she would have to. Thus by asking herself what she feared, Barbara was really revealing what she believed.
So now Barbara has two beliefs with which to deal: I can't have my way, and I have to agree with my mother. While these may seem harmless enough, a potential problem of all beliefs is that they will become an experience. In other words, whatever Barbara believes has the potential of becoming what she experiences.
You can bet that Barbara has been carrying these beliefs around for a while, too. In all likelihood, she has had many experiences in which she couldn't have her way or she has had to let her mother run all over her. Each new experience, of course, served to reinforce the original belief.
What, then, is Barbara's next step after she has uncovered her fears/beliefs? Once Barbara knows her negative beliefs, she needs to ask herself what she wants instead and actually picture it happening. To really make this work, Barbara will have to shed all the parameters and limits of what she thinks is possible and actually decide what she truly, lovingly wants to have happen instead. (Barbara decided that she really wanted her mother to compliment her on her ideas.) This done, Barbara then needs to take a little time and actually participate in the visualized desired experience.
This act of visualizing serves to empower her desire because she actually experiences it, and experiences create beliefs. Obviously the more frequently she experiences her visualization, the more strongly she will hold her new positive belief.
Then it is only a matter of time before things begin to shift for Barbara. She may see a change in a couple of hours, or it may take longer. Being in a hurry for the new experience to come about actually makes it more difficult to appear. This is because worrying is really a fear, or belief, that what you want will not happen. This is why Barbara will most benefit if she stays conscious of what she wants rather than if it will appear.
What actually happened for Barbara is that her mother called her back and said that she had reconsidered her options, and she had decided that Barbara's idea really worked better for her. And her mother even thanked her for being so patient! That Barbara did not expect.
This little process given to Barbara can have extraordinary implications in your life if you choose to use it. While watching television or reading the newspaper, pay attention to how you feel. If something in the news inspires a negative feeling in you, ask yourself what you fear, and therefore believe. If you hold a belief you would rather not have, take a moment and change it. Do the same thing for issues that arise at work and in your family.
Positive feelings are just as potent as negative ones. When you feel positive feelings, ask yourself what you believe. Congratulate yourself for holding a positive belief that created a positive experience. Reinforce for yourself the idea that your belief created your experience, and that it will create more positive experiences if kept alive.
It is ironic that a woman's apparent weakness (her emotions) is potentially one of her greatest strengths. You can make it an absolute strength in your life if you consciously decide to use it to create the world you really desire.
Joanne C. Rodasta is the author of the newly released "Take A Moment And Create Your Life!" (Spiritsmith) She lives in Newport Beach and can be reached via firstname.lastname@example.org and www.spiritsmith.com. ©1997 by Joanne C. Rodasta
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