Feng Shui and Todayís Woman
By Jenny T. Liu
Todayís women wear multiple hats ó they are leader, wife, mother, sister, daughter and boss or employee. The pressures of society, family, religion, media and work require they be no less than super human.
Ten things todayís women can do to create more balance in their lives:
1) Balance the Tiger and the Dragon. Standing at the front of your house facing the street, the Tiger is a feng shui term for the right side ó it represents the female, family well-being and savings. The Dragon refers to the left side and represents the male, outside relationships and income.
If either side has a lower grade in the land, a dead end or high-voltage station outside or on the inside, there is a toilet or wall, this can cause the related Tiger and Dragon aspects to have problems. It is important to clear away the negative energy, or use special elements to balance the Tiger and Dragon energies. Otherwise, it is common for an imbalance to create unstable money, burdens on the relationship, or separation.
2) Select and create a master bedroom that promotes you and your partner. Getting a rejuvenating nightís sleep and having an environment conducive to quality love making is the key to good mental, physical and sexual health. If the master bedroom is not favorable for yourself or your partner, the person sleeping in the incompatible room is more vulnerable to instability, irritability, illness, distress or adultery.
As a team, the weaker partner often takes a toll on the other. It is important to adjust the roomís energies to compensate for the weaker person. Make sure you and your partner are in a compatible orientation, the bed is placed with the headboard against a solid wall and no doors, mirrors, fireplace or sharp corners are aligned with the bed.
3) Use a matching door to bring in supporting energies. The door is where energy enters a home and represents the wealth and relationship with people outside the home. If both husband and wife work, they should try to use the door in an orientation that matches them. When there isnít a compatible door for one partner, this can offset the energies to be favorable to one and not the other. When this happens, make appropriate adjustments such as placing compatible guardian animals on either side of the door to release defeating energies.
4) Adjust your feng shui annually. Just as you change year to year, your environment should be adjusted to reflect and support the positive changes that allow your life to be progressive.
5) Have your own space. It is important to be able to go somewhere that is yours to recharge your batteries and reflect. This can be a hobby room, library, meditation area, exercise room/gym, beach, your backyard or even a journal. It is vital to reclaim yourself and remember who you are and why you are here.
6) Surround yourself with your promoting elements and affirmations. Put up images of people, places, events or memories that make you happy, confident and peaceful. Affirmations stimulate your subconscious mind to remember the good and overcome the bad. Inspiring art or memoirs of events, achievements, collage of goals, or Chi art are all good ways to reinforce personal strengths and manifest dreams into reality.
7) Take care of your body that houses your spirit. This is feng shui for your physical self. We all need the energy inside of us to circulate; it is when energy is stuck that we feel pain and ailments occur. Your health and self image are vital to your well-being. Just as if we see a cluttered room, it makes us feel uptight, tired and stressed. If we look in the mirror and see a poor self image, it affects how we feel about ourselves, how we come across to others, and how we behave. Our self esteem is very much connected to our self image.
Yes, beauty comes from within, but sometimes we donít feel beautiful from within; we are tired and overwhelmed and this will reflect in our outside appearance. We can use our physical appearance to adjust energies within. Create yourself as you desire to be. Eat what you want to be, exercise to release stress and promote circulation. Massage, facials, and grooming should not be the occasional indulgence, but if possible, a regular routine for maintenance. Just like our cars, our bodies are like machines; if you abuse them, they wonít function properly or worse, will suddenly break down.
8) Learn the art of appreciation. Appreciate everything around you, all the good and the bad. When we send out positive energies of gratitude, it makes subtle but real changes in our surroundings. All that love comes back and does miraculous things to our spirit. Strangely enough, this is especially hard when it comes to our closest loved ones if they upset us.
Getting mad and arguing seldom achieves anything for you or the other person involved. Appreciate their qualities to remember what is more important. Try to take conflicts in life as an opportunity to teach others and yourself something. Positive actions rewarded will continue to occur and improve.
9) Cultivate yourself. Keeping your options open and stimulating your mind gives you a new resource in your life. What you learn in meditation, yoga, ceramics, marital arts or feng shui can often apply to many different avenues of your life. Sometimes, taking a new approach makes all the difference. You may discover new options and solutions that never before occurred.
10) Stand up before supporting others. It is often difficult for a woman to say no when asked for help. Being overextended can often lead to stress-induced ailments. Understand your priorities and limitations, and know you cannot support others if you cannot support yourself.
Jenny Liu holds a Bachelorís Degree in Environmental Design from UC Berkeley and a Masterís Degree in Architecture from UCLA. She is an expert in the 8,000-year-old Chinese philosophy of Feng Shui who also shares her knowledge through seminars, workshops, periodicals and the internet. Awarded for her Masterís Thesis on Feng Shui, Ms. Liu is a fourth-generation practitioner with her own consulting firm. For more information, see www.liu-fengshui.com
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