Learn To Show YOURSELF
By Lisa Cherney
Many years ago I was working in corporate America in a job I thought I liked. At least, I knew that I liked it better than any of the other jobs I’d previously held. I was going along my merry way and then BANG, I was laid off. I was not a stranger to this situation. I had been laid off twice before and each time I had ended up in a better place. But this time I was depressed because this was a really good job. I liked the people I worked with, I liked my boss, I could even talk to him about spirituality. I liked the product I was selling, and the company had some exciting plans for the future. But the Universe obviously had another plan for me.
I should have had an inkling of this during my annual review, when my boss started to tell me what I needed to do in order to eventually have his job. I had felt my eyes glaze over and heard a strong voice within in me say, “YUCK, I DON’T WANT HIS JOB!” Now I was being shown the door. Where would that door lead me? It’s funny how we often don’t make big changes until we are shown the door — in relationships, in our living situations, and in our search for the perfect career. So the question becomes, “How do we get to a place where we can show ourselves the door?”
In running my own business, there have been many times when I have come to the place where I start to see a door appear and it scares me. However, I’ve learned to listen to these fearful thoughts and use them as stepping-stones to the ultimate awareness of what needs to change. When I listen, I am the one who shows myself the door. When I don’t, it is forced on me.
Weren’t You Doing ‘X’ Last Year?
We often dread these words when we’ve recently made a shift in our work. Or we fear these words so we don’t change. We feel like we must have it all figured out and then launch into the world and stay that way forever. We may think that it’s a failure to change our business name or the description of our services. Or even drop one or two services from our long list of what we have to offer. Instead, this is really ignoring our inner guidance. It is not following the path that our soul is providing.
What Is a “Speaking Heart?”
A “speaking heart” is the part of us that tries, and sometimes fails, to let us know that we need to make a change. People ask me how I know what to charge for my services. I tell them my heart gives me regular raises.
Here’s how it works. First, I may feel a bit resentful. If I’m working with people over time and feel resentful because of the amount of money they are paying me, then I begin to see the door opening to a price increase. If people start saying to me, “You don’t charge enough,” then I begin to listen and find my heart is in agreement. I also see what people I admire charge, and I ask myself, “Why not me?” The start of a New Year is the perfect time to give yourself a raise.
Change is Constant
We hear this all the time. Sometimes is makes me mad, but most of the time it’s a relief. I think, “Well great, because this isn’t feeling quite right and since I know change is a constant, then I may as well go with it.” Making changes can be scary, but change also helps to open up doors we didn’t know existed.
Take a Flying Leap
What leap can you take for the New Year? What change is your heart trying to get you to hear? What doors are being shown to you? My favorite quote is “Leap and the net will appear” from Julie Cameron. It’s funny how we won’t do something for fear of being disappointed. So instead we stay where we are and are disappointed!
It’s worth it! Follow your heart and know that you have support, inside yourself and in the world. If I hadn’t followed my heart five years ago, then the hundreds of businesses I have helped launch would not have been touched by my unique approach to marketing, and they might still be gazing at a distant door. I remember this fact when the fear creeps in.
Make 2005 the year to follow your heart. No matter what it says! Instead of waiting to be “shown the door,” listen for those heartfelt stepping-stones that allow you to lovingly show yourself the door.
Lisa Cherney is a Marketing Intuitive and President & Founder of Conscious Marketing (TM). Lisa has helped thousands of business owners tap into their intuition and market their businesses from the ‘Inside Out’. For over 15 years she worked at Fortune 500 companies and top advertising agencies.
Lisa tells her story in the newly co-authored book “Inspiration to
Realization,” now available at
www.ConsciousMarketing.com. Conscious Marketing also offers
workshops, coaching, and creates marketing materials. Call (888)
(c) 2004 Lisa Cherney
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