HEART OF LOVE
The Love You Deserve
By Dr. Scott Peck & Shannon Peck
So many hearts yearn for love. So many hearts wonder, “Will my love dreams ever come true? Is it even worth dreaming any more? Where can I find the love I deserve?
Love is closer than you might imagine.
It is so tempting to think in terms of waiting for love to arrive in our lives — to come to us. Yet each of us can become proactive in creating the love we deserve. You can literally have as much love as you want — both in quality and quantity. Let’s explore this. Whether you are single, married, and even it its been a long time since you felt real love, here are some ideas to help you vastly expand your love experience.
First, raise the bar within your soul and internalize the love you truly deserve. You deserve to be cherished, honored, adored, wanted. Your dreams deserve support. Your heart deserves to be listened to. You deserve so much kindness, so much tender care. Are these your inner standards? So often our love lives fall short because our standards within our own hearts are too low. The first critical step towards experiencing the love you deserve is to know ? and claim — that you deserve it. And you do!
Second, love yourself more richly. Go deep within and let go of “future” thinking. Allow your heart to feel the blessing of being you right now. Honor your own wonderful talents and sweet heart. There is so much richness within you — so much worth loving. Loving yourself in this way opens your heart and uplifts your self-esteem. Truly, this is a big dose of the love you deserve — and it comes from within. Let it.
Set aside time for yourself to become still and quiet so you can reflect on your life. This will also reveal what action you may need to take towards speaking up, being visible, and ways you can nurture yourself while in a new relationship. Ask yourself, “What would I do differently if I were in a dynamic love relationship in order to make it deeply rich and satisfying?” Listen to Love!
Third, get with people like you — friends who have hearts and aspirations and values like yours. Surround yourself with those who live and breath respect, equality, tenderness, caring, joyfulness, and open hearts. There are millions of people with such hearts. Go be with them. Living in isolation is unacceptable. Get involved. Get new “love” friends. This is actually part of accepting the love you deserve ? by choosing to be with the quality of what your heart seeks. Let your life evolve towards higher relationships.
Did you notice that all these steps towards more love are internal, rather than external? Here’s another huge internal step towards love expansion.
Fourth, be love proactive. Create love everywhere you are. Visualize yourself being more pronounced in the love skill of asking heart questions that call forth more heart talk. For example, start asking love questions such as, “What is the most significant thing going on in your life right now?” Or, “What are you most passionate about?” Such heart questions create sweet intimacy and allow hearts to feel safe while developing a new relationship. It’s an opportunity for you to practice the valuable love skill of transparency. No more games! Be real.
“Oh no. That’s not me. I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking such questions!” Experiencing the love you deserve means your love life is going to expand — in more and new ways. That’s good news! Isn’t that what you want? Allow your inner heart to relax more, open more, and expand more. Let love possibilities expand — within your own heart.
Creating love forces your heart to open more and start loving others more. A heart speaking openly not only feels good within, but invites others to love you. Your life and actions then make the statement “I am a love being and that’s what is most important to me.” This is the love you deserve — and again, it’s within you. That’s mighty good news.
Remember, you are not desperate. You don’t need to listen to those dark thoughts. Just because there is presently no love in sight doesn’t mean this is permanent. Your decision to be a creator of more love will be generously welcomed in the universe and the universe will support it by drawing the right people to you as you take steps to initiate more love. The world is waiting for you to make your first “love move.”
As you tap the infinite love well within your heart, others will feel the expanded quality of your love. They will be more attracted to you. In fact, you will be more attracted to yourself. Let love radiate from your vast inner love resources. How much love do you want? Let your own actions define the love you deserve and watch what happens. Welcome to the heart of love!
Dr. Scott Peck & Shannon Peck are Co-founders of TheLoveCenter, a non-profit educational organization holding the space for all humanity to live in healing Love. They are authors of “The Love You Deserve,” “Liberating Your Magnificence,” and “All the Love You Could Ever Want!” (audio set). Shannon’s new book, “Love Heals: How to Heal Everything with Love,” has just been released. For lots more love, visit www.TheLoveCenter.com , e-mail TheLoveCenter@aol.com , or call (800) 266-1525.
© Copyright 2004 Scott & Shannon Peck
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